Large size intimidate me

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Registered: 07-14-2008
Large size intimidate me
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Mon, 07-14-2008 - 4:07pm
Hi. I'm concerned about the size of my partner's penis. It is very large compared to past boyfriends, and I'm afraid sex will be painful. In the past I've really had to relax in order to not feel pain/friction with a larger size penis, but even with gels it is difficult to really enjoy movement. Any advise from someone who might of experienced adjusting to a larger size?
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Registered: 03-09-2008
Mon, 07-14-2008 - 6:55pm
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Registered: 05-24-2008
Mon, 07-14-2008 - 11:43pm
I'm sure that you could feel intimidated so maybe have him give you a massage, have some wine, wait until you are good and wet and ready to have him enter you..and then you'll be okay.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 07-15-2008 - 6:43am

Welcome to the board, nature_anewme.

If your mind is focusing on "this isn't going to feel good" type of thoughts, then you're preparing both your body and your mind to have an uncomfortable experience.

First off, make sure that you are getting a good deal of foreplay and are highly aroused prior to him entering you. That will give your body the best chance to lubricate well. When he does enter you, have him do so slowly so that you can adjust a bit at a time -- and begin to associate pleasurable feelings with that.

Adding lube will also help with the experience as things will slide better. If you're not producing enough fluids between the two of you, this can fill the void there as well. There are many things that can affect how well your body will lubricate ... arousal level, hydration level, medications you take, state of mind, alcohol or tobacco use, and hormonal chances are just a few.

















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Registered: 07-14-2008
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 12:09am

Hi. Thank you for taking the time to respond, and for providing some very helpful tips. I do think that my worrying is not helping the situation.

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Registered: 07-14-2008
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 12:14am
Hi. Thanks for the advice, you made me laugh a bit. :)
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Registered: 07-14-2008
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 12:17am
Hi. Thanks so much, it helps to know of a good product. I'm willing to try it but know I must work on my nerves and not think about it. Take care. :)
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 6:59am
Just a couple of other thoughts .....

When a female becomes aroused, her canal becomes a bit longer and the cervix lifts up. Perhaps with a tilted uterus, that's not possible, but your hesitation may also cause you to be less aroused. I know that in my own situation, I love to have my cervix bumped, but only if I'm very aroused. Even at that, it can become too much if it goes on for too long, or if I'm already feeling bruised from a previous encounter.


Another tool you might be interested in is the Perfect Position Selector. You can use his size as a guide in selecting positions.
















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Registered: 04-13-2007
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 5:23pm
It seems to get much better with time. My bf has a very large one, and ~20 months ago when we started dating, it hurt like HELL when it went really deep. It wasn't a matter of lubrication, just a matter of going too far. Then, after a couple of months, it stopped hurting altogether. Feels great now. It literally felt like it rearranged my internal organs a bit. He said he felt something on top of the head (in missionary) that it was boinking into hard. Whatever that was, it went away.
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Registered: 05-24-2008
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 11:07pm
From what I have heard women who have tilted uteruses have to be careful how they are penetrated - if a penis goes in straight ahead it could bang up against the uterus and that would be uncomfortable.