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Large size intimidate me
| Mon, 07-14-2008 - 4:07pm |
Hi. I'm concerned about the size of my partner's penis. It is very large compared to past boyfriends, and I'm afraid sex will be painful. In the past I've really had to relax in order to not feel pain/friction with a larger size penis, but even with gels it is difficult to really enjoy movement. Any advise from someone who might of experienced adjusting to a larger size?

Welcome to the board, nature_anewme.
If your mind is focusing on "this isn't going to feel good" type of thoughts, then you're preparing both your body and your mind to have an uncomfortable experience.
First off, make sure that you are getting a good deal of foreplay and are highly aroused prior to him entering you. That will give your body the best chance to lubricate well. When he does enter you, have him do so slowly so that you can adjust a bit at a time -- and begin to associate pleasurable feelings with that.
Adding lube will also help with the experience as things will slide better. If you're not producing enough fluids between the two of you, this can fill the void there as well. There are many things that can affect how well your body will lubricate ... arousal level, hydration level, medications you take, state of mind, alcohol or tobacco use, and hormonal chances are just a few.
Hi. Thank you for taking the time to respond, and for providing some very helpful tips. I do think that my worrying is not helping the situation.
When a female becomes aroused, her canal becomes a bit longer and the cervix lifts up. Perhaps with a tilted uterus, that's not possible, but your hesitation may also cause you to be less aroused. I know that in my own situation, I love to have my cervix bumped, but only if I'm very aroused. Even at that, it can become too much if it goes on for too long, or if I'm already feeling bruised from a previous encounter.
Another tool you might be interested in is the Perfect Position Selector. You can use his size as a guide in selecting positions.