Lasting Longer

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Registered: 08-14-2004
Lasting Longer
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Sat, 08-14-2004 - 12:13pm
My husband and I used to have great sex. Until I had the baby. Ever since then he lasts maybe 2 min and thats it. I don't get the pleasure. How can I make him last longer?

Another question I have is the 'Big O'. This is going to sound weird but I have only had it maybe a few times, if that. How can I get that great sensation, besides him giving me oral?

Need your help.

Janet
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 5:15pm
Hi Janet! This is just two cents from a married couple's point of view, so hope it helps at least a little.

Something to keep in mind is the fact that not all women have orgasms through intercourse. In fact, the reports and polls are actually showing that less than half of them actually do. When you stated that you had great sex prior to the baby, did that include intercourse orgasms as well? I'm not sure I read that right cause you also stated you only had the Big O a few times, besides oral.

There are Kama Sutra techniques that provide for more effective stimulation of the G-spot for many women. YES there are some who claim that nothing will help at all and that clitoral stimulation is their only orgasm. If you've experienced G-spot or intercourse orgasms before, then you obviously CAN have them and different positions will help. Check out a few ideas of these altered Kama Sutra tricks to see if any of them could help you:

http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/sex/no/articles/0,,544153_633458-1,00.html

Now...you've also mentioned that you'd like him to last longer. Literally dozens of tricks I have read online about this one, LOL! Keeping up with plenty of water and healthy diet/exercise practices will really help in strengthening the blood flow through the penis during erection AND help him to control it. Flexing the Kegel muscles is very popular as well (look up Kegels on any search engine and hang on, LOL).

If it will help at all, I personally DO have problems at times holding back every once in a while, usually heavy stress related, so during intercourse at those times, I communicate with the Mrs. whenever I need to "slow down a bit" so I don't lose whatever control I have left. Even if it temporarily ruins the mood, she agrees that its worth it to "keep it up" and continue on. THIS is why its so debatable across all kinds of message boards about control being in the "mind" and not simply about the situation being physical and thats it.

Please feel free to visit these guys also if you haven't done so, they've been great help to me even:

How to Have Hotter Sex

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlimproveyou

Sexual Pleasure: Orgasms & More

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlpleasurepr

Hope this helps. Good luck!

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