Lets give her a helping hand!

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Lets give her a helping hand!
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Thu, 04-07-2005 - 4:52am

Here's a quote from one of our newcomers:

>>...ummm im new to all of this just let you know, so i am just wondering how to give a good hj and bj...you said you found ppl to be really helpful in here so i am wondering if you could help me out....i have a boyfriend and want to expand on our relationship so any advice that you have would be wonderful! thanks!<<

My dumb question of the week is...can anyone advise her on this??? LMHO!!

Islandkissxd, welcome to the board! ;)

 

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Thu, 04-07-2005 - 7:46am

Well, of course! She has to ask him what he likes, and what feels good to him. Every man likes different things, and HE'S the only one who can tell her what that is.

The standard reply to that statement is one of two things: "I'm too shy" or "I don't know him well enough to talk about stuff like that".

My standard reply to THAT is: If you're too shy to ask, then you shouldn't be doing it. If you don't know him well enough to talk to him about it, then you don't know him well enough to do those things.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Thu, 04-07-2005 - 7:55am

Yep, I couldn't agree more.

I thought I gave great BJ's until I met my DH....who quickly taught me how HE likes it done. Likewise, I like my clitoris stimulated in a different manner to my DH's past girlfriends.

We're all so wonderfully different - and therefore there is no golden rule on how to give the best BJ or HJ.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 04-07-2005 - 9:18am
As GTB and Aisha said, find out from him what he likes.

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sun, 05-15-2005 - 10:09am

Thanks for the replies so far.

If anyone has any techniques or skills or fun ideas to add, please bring 'em. In the meantime, here's very informative threads I've found from various IVillage boards and a helpful website too:

http://members.tripod.com/midniterambler2002-ivil/goingdownfurther/id14.html

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlimproveyou&msg=1239.1

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlpleasurepr/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlpleasurepr&msg=6921.10

I'm hoping a board like this will have some nifty ideas the same way it has for cunnilingus tips, so lets have 'em y'all!

 

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