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| Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:06pm |
Alright, I've been posting around in some other spots on the boards and not really getting what I was hoping for. Everyone has been nice and I have gotten a couple of friendly notes, but maybe this is the board with the really frank talkers who aren't too embarassed to share. Here's the situation...my bf is Army reserves and on June first he got activated for school and sent to GA for almost 5 months. We live in CA and since he has no leave time during school and I'm new to a job where my schedule could change at any time and will likely be including weekends for the next several months and the cost of the flight to visit is high it is unlikely we'll get to see eachother until he comes home. We have a very active sex life and very much enjoy all the carnal pleasures two experienced consenting adults might who know themselves and there turn ons. While I certainly have gone without being intimate for longer periods of time than this will be, this is the first long distance relationship I've been in and the idea of having someone you are madly in love with and totally committed to and amazingly fufilled by who you can't physically be with is driving me a little nuts and it's only been 3 1/2 weeks! So, I know all the basics like sending erotic emails and naughty texts and steamy phone conversations, but I want to know how other people might have kept a situation like this fresh and exciting and felt connected to their partner without having contact. Also, what about when they came home? We talk almost daily and we share everything that's going in our lives so I know that our relationship is continuing to grow deeper and closer and certainly isn't only about sex, but will all the "fantasy" talk over the next 4 months change how we feel about our actual sex life? Could being erotic to keep the spice up long distance hurt us when we're back in the same bed? Will we have to relearn eachother all over again, and if we do is that even a bad thing? I guess I'm just feeling a little confused and looking for some suggestions and examples and a place to vent. :)

Feel free to vent here, and to ask questions!
If you're only talking about a period of 4 months, I think that could build a lot of anticipation. While it could change your sex life, it may be a change for the better. I think it's more likely that when the two of you are together again, it will be very exciting. Those sparks can often do a relationship good.
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I'm sure it is frustrating, and thankfully it is only for four months.
When DH and I made a long distance move a couple of years ago, he moved ahead of me. I was left behind to sell the house and tie things up (he got a work transfer, so he had to go when they were ready for him). I didn't deal well with the situation at all. My main difficulty was in not knowing "when" we would be back together as a family. I think it would have made a huge difference if I had a date to use as a goal. Luckily, I got a good contract on the house and was able to have family help (sit in) for the settlement. It was only one month that we all had to be apart.
Have you visited the Dating a Military Man board? I wonder if others there have already been through this sort of separation and can give you advice about what to expect. If you want to stop there, here's a link:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlmildating
Another board where you might find some help is Long Distance Relationships.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rllongdistan
I know you mentioned visiting a couple of other boards, but I don't know which ones. Hopefully, between this one and those, you will get some great advice.
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