Letting Go....

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Registered: 07-28-2004
Letting Go....
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Wed, 08-11-2004 - 2:32pm
do you find it hard to let go of your emotions with your SO?

I am so comfortable with my bf, I can tell him anything and I don't mind being stupid or silly or crying or angry around him. But when it comes to completely letting go during sex, I get to a certain point and then stop.

how can I fix this???

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Registered: 11-15-2003
In reply to: starfire01
Wed, 08-11-2004 - 2:52pm
Dear Starfire,

The secret to letting go and surrendering is to surrender to the fact that you have a difficult time surrendering during sex. In other words, worrying about just makes it all that much more difficult. Just have the intention to surrender and let the Universe work out the details for you. When you notice that you are holding back, just notice that without judgment. Things will all work the way you want them to eventually.

Peace.

Scott.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: starfire01
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 12:03am
It's a matter of trust, trusting HIM, and trusting yourself. "Letting go" during sex is the "ultimate" act of trust. Trusting that he will love it, trusting that no matter what you do, what kind of noises you make, or looks on your face, that he loves you so much that he will only revel in the joy of giving you the ultimate pleasure, with NOTHING held back.
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Registered: 06-08-2004
In reply to: starfire01
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 12:13am
Good advice greenteabag. I would have to agree. Maybe try a slightly different type of stimulation though. I know it is easier for me to let go when I am stimulated vaginally rather than clitorally. Maybe it will be easier for you maybe not. Just a suggestion.