Light-hearted porn issue

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Registered: 12-13-2004
Light-hearted porn issue
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 5:35am

Some may have an opinion on this, others may just like reading it.

I was chatting with a friend the other day, this particular guy has an obsession with porn (and predictably, he doesn't have a girlfriend). I have watched so few porn films in my time that I can actually remember them individually. So, we got talking about porn, as he was telling me that he was watching one of the films that I actually know of.

We then started discussing the issue of ejaculation and more specifically, premature ejaculation.

Porn stars are supposed to be the best at sex, not passionately or romantically, but in terms of looking good for televisual purposes, they are. Most people who watch porn films like to generally see; two good looking heterosexuals, a bit of oral sex both ways, penetrative sex in a few positions, then concluding with an average to large 'cumshot'.

One of the things about the male pornstars is that they're supposed to be able to 'hold it in' until the filmmaker wants him to blow his load. Sure, millions upon millions of everyday men are able to last a long time but the thing with pornstars is that they're supposed to be able to do it every time.

One porn film we were talking about featured a guy, who got sucked and ridden like hell by two women, did many other positions, before shooting a huge load over one of the women's face. As we said, the average man would have climaxed much sooner usually, but this guy is good at what he does.

But then we got on to the subject of the films being realistic. There was one film I saw where the women were supposed to be really hot voluptuous girls but where the men were quite average. I remember in this film, the men actually came relatively quickly, like 10 minutes or so. But the thing was, it was true to life. Average men like those, with much hotter women like those, doing the kinds of things they were doing, probably would have come quite quickly. However, there seemed to be no shame in it and therefore it made for quite good viewing.

It was not a problem for those guys to come early. But what about those porn films, and I've seen one or two like this, where the guy appears to be lasting for ages, and the viewer almost seems to be asking, "Man, how has he not come yet?", but then when it actually gets to the end, his cumshot is really rather weak.

My friend, a definite porn conosseur, said that in cases like that, they've usually come earlier in the film, but the director wants them to carry on. That's why it last a while but that's why he doesn't come a lot, because there's nothing left in him. My friend said it's frustrating as a viewer, because your hopes are built up only to be let down by an anti-climax. I said, that surely it would look better if they just let the guy come when he wants, rather than let the viewer down like that.

To be honest, the fact that I'm writing this should suggest that I've got nothing better to do right now.

But if there's a point to this message, I guess it's to ask, do we like our porn films to be extreme, fantasy type ones, or would we prefer if they were sometimes more realistic and true to life?

I can solve all of life's problems by asking myself a simple question:  What would Stone Cold Steve Austin do in this particular situation?

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Registered: 02-26-2001
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 10:54pm
Not everyone is in a relationship, plus even people in a relationship don't always have the option. Anyway, I was just pointing out that even musicians listen to music occasionally.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 11:44pm
True, but I was stating MY preference regarding porn and this "musician" would prefer playing to listening any day!


Edited 6/1/2005 11:56 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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