Limited sex positions?
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Limited sex positions?
| Sun, 04-29-2007 - 4:45pm |
My boyfriend and I are really different in body types. He's tall and skinny and I'm short and chubby. Once we started having sex, we realized that normal sex positions are not for us. Normal missionary or me being on top don't seem to work. He mentioned that he read that some couples who are as physically different as we are only able to do a certain few positions. The only way we can have sex where both of us really enjoy it is doggy, but I don't want to be stuck on that. I've never had this problem before, but I've never been with someone so tall before. We've tried doing some kama sutra stuff, but we just keep going back to doggy. Is this normal???

Welcome to the board wicked_writer.
People often get into a rut with a sexual position for various reasons, and it can become a bit boring. There are some variations on doggy that you may be able to incorporate to add a bit of excitement:
- use a full length or hand held mirror so that you can see him or the action
- have him be on one knee, the other leg on it's foot (knee bent)
- have him stand behind you while you are on your knees on the bed
- put your upper body down onto pillows instead of supporting yourself on your hands
- you be on your knees in either a chair or sofa and have him enter you from behind with your body nearly upright
Also, a couple of other positions that you might enjoy are spooning and what many of us call the "T". In spooning, he is still entering you from behind, but he is hugging your whole body as each of you lay on your sides.
In the "T" position, you lay on your back, he lays on his side and you scissor your legs between his (one over, one between). Your bodies form a "T". It's a great position where your entire body can also be stimulated be either of you (or a toy), and you can look at each other. It's a great position for g-spot stimulation, and you can also stimulate various parts of his body.
To try a twist on the missionary position, you can put a pillow or two beneath your butt. It will raise you up a bit and provide a different angle for penetration. For you to be on top, it might be helpful to put a pillow on either side of him, and then you kneel on them.
There are all kinds of positions where the difference in size makes NO difference in the results. Even WOT shouldn't be a problem. You postion yourself on top of him and sit there. How difficult can that be? Maybe you just don't LIKE being on top.
He can sit up, you can sit on his lap facing him, with your legs around him. He can stand, and you sit on something that puts you at the right height.
Experimenting should be half the fun!
When you are doing missionary, have you tried bring your knees up closer to your chest, or raising your legs so they are over his shoulders or finally putting your feet so they are pressed against his chest. This requires him to be more upright. Have you also tried the reverse cowgirl where you are on top but facing his feet.
C
There's nothing "normal" about sex between two people. What those two people do is "normal" for them.
You say you don't care for WOT.....yet that would be one of the best and easiest positions for two people of widely varying body size. Maybe you don't like it because you haven't learned how to do it right. Keep trying. Once you get the hang of it, it will probably become your favorite.....as it is for most women who get it right. YOU control the action, and you get clitoral stimulation as well as "g" spot stimulation if you do it right.
Keep trying.....like anything else, it takes practice.
The only thing that "limits" you is your imagination, or lack of it.