Long-distance lovin'
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Long-distance lovin'
| Sun, 06-20-2004 - 7:27pm |
My boyfriend and I are separated by a distance, and I only get to see him about once every couple of weeks. I want to make him happy in the meantime by having phone sex, but I am not sure how to go about it. Could you give me some tips to start us off, and perhaps some suggestions on making it really good?
Thanks!
Thanks!

Well you can either discuss it with him (Honey, what do you think about phone sex) or you could just kind of dive in and see if he'll follow your lead. Some suggestions about starting it off is ask him what hes wearing or visa versa. Then you can teasingly suggest he take something off. Something along those lines. Or you could be discussing your turn-ons or fantasies (if you do that, my bf and I do but I don't know if everyone does) and then kind of make it a little bit naughtier and naughtier until you're both turned on and suggest helping each other get off. My bf will usually ask me what I'm wearing and sometimes it just that, he honestly just wanted to know what I'm wearing and sometimes he'll suggest I take something off if I have the time. We then usually discuss what we want to do and go from there, however occaisionally its totally spontaneous.
As far as making it really good, that kind of depends on you. For one your bf's and your own ability to please YOURSELVES is really important. Because if one or both of you don't know how to please yourself it might not be much fun. Beyond that as far as what to say it again depends on you and your bf's preferences. You can do roleplays, talk through fantasies, discuss how each of you are touching yourselves right then. You can have one person just talk the other one through getting off or have a dialog. Just personal preference really.
For roleplays me and my bf usually do dialogs because its kind of needed to do a roleplay, some suggestions on roleplays are doctor/nurse and patient, teacher and student, boss and secretary, massuse/massuer and client, etc. Just whatever comes to mind and then you both act out your parts very sexually. Try to be as uninhibited as possible as far as your language because for most people the terms "penis" and "vagina" aren't great turn ons. Remember to describe acts as explicitly as possible and with really good detail so that your partner can feel like your right there with them doing it.
Fantasies are a lot of fun, and it helps if you know your partners fantasies. Or you can always act out your own and hope he enjoys them. But again be as explicit as possible, feel out your partner on how dirty you can be and what kind of things he wants to hear. Obviously you both have your own fantasies but some scenarios you may want to try are: sex on the beach, sex on a camping trip/hiking trip, have him grab you while your cooking in the kitchen, one of you walking in on the other in the shower, waking him/him waking you up with sex. Those are just some suggestions but sometimes the more the elaborate the scenario the more fun it is.
Talking about what you are each doing to yourselves at the moment is one I haven't been able to bring myself to do yet. I just can't seem to think of enough things to say, but I have a few friends who do it, and they enjoy it. Again you have to be pretty darn explicit.
One thing which may be a generalization but I figure is a pretty good one. Guys tend to like turned on girls, or turning girls on. So makes sounds, moan, tell him how good touching yourself feels, tell him you wish he could be there doing it for you, tell him how sexy his voice is and how much it helps get you off and above all when you get off BE LOUD! hehe At least it works for me. For me I feel like there are only so many things that I can say to turn him on and get him off, but the sound of my getting off is usually such a jump in how turned on he is its awesome. And it almost always pushes him over the edge. I'll even fess up that once or twice when I was doing one for him (I was talking (and touching myself) but he was just listening) there were places in the scenario when it was just too perfect of a time for me to get off even though I wasn't quite there yet that I faked it (yes I'm a bad person). But it turns him on soo much and it pushes him over the edge and gets him off so every now and then when I just can't seem to get there I'll do it for him ;)
Good luck! And have fun!
Angel