Long sex...not quickies
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| Thu, 02-24-2005 - 1:15am |
Okay. I like the long lasting sex. My bf cums pretty quick the first time we do it but those day we usually get a few more oppurtunities to do it so the next session lasts longer and the next session lasts even longer. He suggests that i come over for quickies once in a while but I hate doing that because it's usually in the morning and I don't finish because he finishes so fast and we don't have time for LOTS of foreplay. I'm begining to feel like quickies are to satisfy him only. He always says he'll finish me off and he tries to but nothing works like real sex for me. Fingering and oral don't do me justice...call me strange...but whatever.
I suggest he jerks off a little while before i come over that way he doesn't have to work on me so long and then we'll last a bit longer. I donno. This is weird I donno what to say I don't want to make him feel like he's not satisfying me..he does work hard lol.

If he's not satisfying you, then he's not satisfying you, and why shouldn't he know that?
There's a time and a place for quickies, and there's nothing wrong with them, if that's not ALL you do. You say it's ok when it takes longer, so what's the big deal? As long as you have both.....then both of you should be happy.
Well, quickies ARE mainly for him, aren't they?
But if you're consistently getting the "short end of the stick" sexually, then you should speak up and expect more. Just because he suggests that you run by for a quickie, doesn't mean you HAVE to either. And it's better if you don't if you'll only feel frustrated or resentful about it later.
Tell him to take matters into his own hands until he can make equal time for YOUR pleasure. But you know that YOU could also do the same before you go over there, too!
Edited 2/24/2005 2:08 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
I don't agree that the quickies are just for him unless he's selfish lol
When my love and I have a quickie more often that not,
there is a time restraint ie; one of us has to collect the kids from school in 20mins.
More than half of the time I don't even get a look in -but then it's not for me it's for her lol
so it is a race to get her off.So she already know's that if she doesn't get off in that time, with me going down on her, then it won't happen before one of us( usually me) has to collect the kids, meaning that she'll have to take care of herself while I'm away.
The time factor add's to the urgency and help's her a lot to get herself going, and whet her appettite for later when we can both benefit fully.
cheers Jacobiteone
The OP SAID that she can only orgasm from LONG sessions of intercourse and her BF knows that. So, in HER case, these quickies are clearly for HIS benefit only.
"Wham, bam, thank you, ma'am" has the negative connotation it does, at least for women, because it's all about the guy.
Edited 2/24/2005 11:50 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
Have you tried getting yourself ready before going over to see him? Fantasize about what's going to happen, and play with yourself? That might help to bring you more on his level of arousal.
DH and I both have many occasions where one of us is extremely aroused and about ready to burst, and we want immediate release. They are quickies alright. They are included in our overall sex life which for the most part is balanced between, quickies, long sessions, and everything in between. In any event, he can masturbate before seeing you or you can supply him with a means to a release. That's up to you. It sounds as though his quick release is beneficial to both of you and your overall sex life. You both know your bodies well, now it's just a matter of syncronizing it to where everyone is happy.
Personally, I appreciate the quickie for what it is, because it's only a part of the big picture.
Well perhaps I'm lucky that my love can get off even to FE with us having a quickie ie; with me giving her oral
I was just suggesting putting a time frame on it may help focus thing's more.
My love never used to enjoy quickies that much until we made her the sole benificary.
but If your not in the right mind set then no matter what your partner does it may just not happen.
"Wham, bam, thank you, ma'am" has the negative connotation it does, at least for women, because it's all about the guy.
Yes there are plenty of selfish guy's out there and women too lol
But then if your already anticipating what may happen and getting yourself worked up it goes a long way to help change that situation,
Nothing wrong with an occasional quickie, but as a steady diet? No. It's up to the OP to decide if she's being neglected or taken advantage of....but from her post, it does appear that she feels she is.
But I think giving one's partner a night of pleasure, that's just about them, is wonderful and my DH and I do that regularly for one another.
Edited 2/24/2005 5:28 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
Thank you for the suggestions!
I think the issue was that I made the suggestion that he masturbate a little earlier that way our session would last longer than the first time usually does and he didn't really say anything. Anyways it worked out cuz this morning as I called him to let me know I was on my way he said "change of plans, i'm really horny..so gonna masturbate now and then by the time you get here we'll be good to go" I was beaming with excitement!! LOL
Oh and about getting aroused beforehand...I take the bus everywhere so if I get myself going before I leave and get onto one of those stinky, wet buses my brain won't be thinking about getting off..and also..by the time I get there I'm cold, I have to pee and my nose is runny...I don't feel very sexy lol.
But anyways it worked out and I kinda think he took what I said into consideration anyways.
We were late for lunch with friends but that was okay..it was worth it :o)