Longer "re-charge" for older men??

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Registered: 06-28-2005
Longer "re-charge" for older men??
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Thu, 09-15-2005 - 11:35am

I'm seeing a guy who is older than me & all of the previous partners I've had. Admittedly, he's not old - only 33. The first time I gave him a blow job, he lasted a really long time. When I commented on his stamina (playfully, of course), he said that's what you get with an older man - he's learned self control.

Well - last night I gave him another bj - same deal - no biggie. When we woke up together this morning, we started playing again and he basically told me that he loved what I was doing and it felt great, but he wouldn't be ejaculating anytime soon. Again - he chalked this up to being older - saying it takes longer to recharge.

In my (limited) experience, most guys recharge within 30min - 1 hour. I would say it was probably 5-6 hours after the bj that he told me he still wasn't going to ejaculate. Now, it's all well and good - he can still get hard, he still enjoys it - and he can go on forver. But, I'm wondering if this is normal? Or is it likely that he has some medical problem?

Thanks for any insight!

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Registered: 08-06-2004
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 11:52am

My Husband is 27 - I've been with him for 8 years - And he has only been willing/ able to go more than once in a 24 hour period on occassion, like very early in our relationship or if we have sex in the morning and then again before bed at night.

All mens bodies are differnt no matter what there age. I know my husbands body pretty well, and when he has his orgasm he is done and wont be ready to go again until the next day.

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Registered: 06-28-2005
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 12:08pm
Whew - I'm glad it sounds pretty normal to someone else. Thanks allbluff!
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 12:35pm

There's nothing medically wrong with him, different guys are different ways.


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Registered: 07-26-2005
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 3:44pm

There is no such thing a "normal" when it comes to sex. What is "normal" for one person isn't "normal" for another. Some men "recouperate" in a matter of minutes, some take an hour or two, and some take a full day. There's nothing "wrong" with any of them, that's just the way they are. It's the same with how long it takes them to finish. Some are faster, some are slower.....and they're all "normal".

Thirty three is hardly "older"! "Older" might be 50's or 60's or 70's.....but age doesn't necessarily have any bearing on anything. One difference might be better "control" when a guy gets older....but that's not ALL men either.

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Thu, 09-15-2005 - 4:33pm
In my experience just as men come in all shapes and sizes so does the nature of their sexual performance. While it does seem that older men take longer than younger ones to recharge, they can sometimes catch you by surprise. Elaine
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Fri, 09-16-2005 - 9:42am

I'm in my late 40's; it *usually* takes longer than when I was in my 20's to "get my second wind", but it's as much the intensity of the first session as anything. If the first time around took a while and I had a "big finish", then I guess I'm feeling more satisfied and it'll be a bit before I'm able to perform again. If the first round was a quickie, then it seems I can go again sooner.

And this may sound dumb, but him being well-hydrated may help things; if he can work up a second load easily, it may help him get going again sooner.