Loosing Virginity Before Marriage

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Registered: 02-21-2005
Loosing Virginity Before Marriage
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Mon, 05-09-2005 - 11:24pm
I come from a very tight family were morality is very important and loosing virginity before marriage would be very sinful and unmoral. They believe that once a girl looses their virginity, no other guy would take her siriously. I don't believe in many of these ideas, however I'm scared to loose my virginity before getting married because many of this ideas are stuck in my head. I don't know what to think. I just feel that if thinks don't work out no other guy is going to take me siriously. I just want your opinions on what you think about virginity and marriage.

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Registered: 06-04-2005
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 3:28am

If you want to save yourself for marriage then do so. Remember the old saying, you've got to stand for something or you'll fall for anything? Well if saving yourself is what you believe in, don't let anyone try to put you down or make you feel stupid for doing so. It's your life and live it how you choose to. Lot's of people still do it, either for religious reasons or from moral upbringing.

As for expecting your future wife to be a virgin, that's not a bad thing either. However it's hard finding someone who you click with AND making sure they're a virgin. My advice is, don't worry if they're virgins or not. Otherwise you could pass up some wonderful people in the process. If you do find a non virgin, make it clear to them you want to save yourself for marriage and there is to be no compromising.

You see, once you've had sex, you crave it. And it's harder to stop at the kissing stage because you're always wanting more. That's due to crossing the line. Once you've crossed that line, you'll always want to go farther, to the next step.

So stick to your values if you want to save yourself. When it comes to finding a future partner, find someone who shares your values whether they're a virgin or not. Sometimes people make mistakes, raped, or have repented. If someone is pressuring you for sex, then they're setting their own needs above yours. It's best to let them go so they can find what they're looking for.

Best wishes.

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