Losing my virginity....what do I do?
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| Mon, 10-23-2006 - 4:44pm |
Hello.....I finally identified the special guy(experienced)whom I will lose my virginity with; he's very aware of the situation and is willing to take it slow and teach me along the way. Although, I have a few "stupid" questions to ask.....I appreciate your comments!
1. ORAL SEX: will I get sick if I swallow his cum?
2. VAGINAL SEX: after intercourse, will I have bloody discharge while in bed thereafter and what do I do?
3. ANAL SEX: is pregnancy an issue? does he have to wear a condom?
4. TOYS: I wanted to buy a vibrator(dildo the same thing?)to practice with; will
this help open up/expand my vaginal hole?
5. SAFE SEX: I want to prevent all risks for pregnancy...what do I need to do?
Any additional advice will be great...thanks for understanding!

1. ORAL SEX: will I get sick if I swallow his cum?
Well, Tish answered all your questions, but my feeling is that if you don't KNOW the answers to these questions, then maybe you're not as ready as you think to become sexually active!
Also, the fact that he is "experienced" doesn't really mean anything. Guys can have sex with hundreds of women, and still never know how to properly make love to a woman. There's a LOT more to it than putting his penis in your vagina, or anywhere else.
If he's the kind of guy who only knows how to get his own pleasure (and there are many of them) you will have a very disappointing experience.
So that you can have some understanding of your own body, you need to do some research about foreplay, intercourse, all the various methods of birth control and anything else you can think of. For starters, read about your body at www.the-clitoris.com
It's also a good idea to see your doctor, or preferably a gyno for a check up first, and annually after that. It would also be a good idea to have him get tested for any and all STD's....since he's been so experienced, and since condoms don't protect him (or you) from every STD out there. Particularly HPV, which can eventually cause you cervical cancer.
I have provided replies to your questions:
ORAL SEX: will I get sick if I swallow his cum?
It depends on what do you mean by getting sick. If you are talking about vomitting after swallowing due to the gag reflex it is possible. Main thing is to take your time and do what is comfortable. Try breathing through your nose, relax your muscles, and not to gulp air. However if you asking getting sick as in regards to STDs including HIV / AIDS the answer is more of an it depends. Some research indicates that oral sex is safer than either vaginal or anal for preventing the transmission of HIV / AIDs. If I am correct there have only been a few documented cases where there was a direct link between oral sex and transmission.
My advice is if you are doing oral use a condom.
VAGINAL SEX: after intercourse, will I have bloody discharge while in bed thereafter and what do I do?
You might have a bloody discharge from ripping your hymen provided it has not already been ripped through another activity (e.g. horseback riding, sports). If you are unsure it might be wise to place a towel under you to prevent the sheets from getting stained.
ANAL SEX: is pregnancy an issue? does he have to wear a condom?
The risk of pregnancy from anal sex is nonexistant due to no common link between the rectum and uterus.
My advice in regards to anal sex is twofold. First I would wait on anal sex and get to know him more. Usually anal sex usually develops out of trust in the relationship. It is best to use allot of lubrication, take your time when doing anal sex, and have him enter very slowly.
My second piece of advice in regards to anal is use a condom. Like I said earlier there is no risk of pregnancy but for him there is an increase risk to him of UTI (Urinary Tract Infection) Using a condom during anal sex minimizes this risk.
TOYS: I wanted to buy a vibrator(dildo the same thing?)to practice with; will
this help open up/expand my vaginal hole?
Vagina is a very elastic muscle. You do not need a vibrator or a dildo to work on expanding it. It is best that he uses his finger to help loosen it up before entering you. Also make sure you are properly lubricated to minimize any discomfort.
SAFE SEX: I want to prevent all risks for pregnancy...what do I need to do?
To prevent pregnancy my feeling birth control pills, Depoprovera, or Norplant is the way to go. Granted there are condoms and other methods too. However other methods are only effective if used properly and their greatest failure is when you are first starting to use them. If they are used in conjuction with hormones it will greatly minimise the risk of pregancy.
Pregnancy prevition is only one part of safe sex. The other is minimising exposure to HIV / AIDs and other STDs. The best way to do this is to remain exclusive and use a condom. When a condom is used in conjuction with hormones (Pill, Norplant, Depo.) you will have a comprehensive prtection against pregnancy and STDs including HIV / AIDs.