lots of questions about shaving!!!

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lots of questions about shaving!!!
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Fri, 07-04-2008 - 11:42am

So my bf is very, very keen for me to shave... down there. I'm not entirely sure why, but the idea is kind of aversive to me. Although he seems to think most woman DO shave, I don't know anybody else who does!

So who's right: is it 'normal' to shave? That is, do most people do so? I totally get that whatever makes you happy is 'normal' and all, but is it 'the norm'?

Can anyone give me some first-hand experiences with shaving? How on earth do you even do it without cutting yourself (I assume you can't just use a normal razor)? How do you keep from getting in-grown hairs and isn't it itchy?

Last, is it totally selfish of me to not want to shave? It's not like I don't trim and keep things generally tidy, but he has mentioned it makes it less than fresh and that the hair chafes... for the record, he does shave himself and hasn't really pressured me, just has made his opinions known. I do want to be sure I'm game and willing to try things out, but somehow I just don't like the idea of it... is that unfair? Should I at least give it a go?

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Registered: 07-07-2008
Mon, 07-07-2008 - 4:09pm

I've shaved before. It's an interesting feeling at first...everything seems a lot more sensitive. It is a bit high maintenance for me though, so I prefer to just keep trimmed and shave occasionally (whenever I'm in the mood for it). It's definitely something to try at least once. If you hate it, it will all grown back within a few days and you don't have to do it again.


My GYN doctor actually gave me a lecture about it though. He said that because of all the hair follicles, you are more at risk for an infection when you shave completely. I never thought about it like that until he said something.

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Mon, 07-07-2008 - 9:39pm
"My GYN doctor actually gave me a lecture about it though. He said that because of all the hair follicles, you are more at risk for an infection when you shave completely. I never thought about it like that until he said something."



I've heard that from another member on the board in the past. It doesn't seem all doctors say the same thing though -- which makes me wonder if it isn't a bit of an opinion more than a proven medical fact. Out of curiosity, was it being bare, or the shaving that made the most difference? (Like would waxing be just as risky?)

I don't go bare, but maybe I'll ask my GYN about it during my visit next month.


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Mon, 07-07-2008 - 9:53pm

maybe I'll ask my GYN about it during my visit next month.


Mine asked me where I got mine done!


She even wanted to know the name of the aesthetician...


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Mon, 07-07-2008 - 10:09pm
Well I am 45, and I keep completely bare down there...I just find it easier to keep it that way all the time, than just once and awhile...maybe everyone thinks it is just the younger set, as I don't think you really see alot of 40 something's in porn, and alot probibly don't talk about it.....but I do love it myself, and I think for me anyway, it feels so much better, skin on skin...

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Mon, 07-07-2008 - 10:12pm
Oh Mrs.P....lmao.....I am picturing my mothers response would be the same....ha,ha,ha....

cl-sandif2008
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Mon, 07-07-2008 - 10:15pm
Well nikki, think how your mother must feel....ha,ha.....I am saying this because, one day my DD walked in on me shaving down there...I was just doing a quick shave, and forgot to lock the bathroom door, well in she walked, and she just about screamed...."What are you doing...omg...that is gross", well we were both in a state of shock, she hasn't brought it up since...so safe to say she knows her moms preference now...ha,ha,....I just laugh...you have to laugh...if not, what else could you do....you may as well laugh....

cl-sandif2008
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Mon, 07-07-2008 - 11:17pm
Well she was never the modest type, she just stood there getting stuff out of the closet and continued talking to me like it was nothing!

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Mon, 07-07-2008 - 11:27pm
Oh I agree with you...my DD sure did freak out, and so did I, it shocked me so bad...I just froze...I have never been caught in any compromising position before or since this incident.....well at least now, I never forget to check the lock on the door, and she never forgets to knock before opening a closed door....the poor thing,,,,i really feel bad for her that she had to see that...well I wasn't full on facing her or anything, and she immediatley turned away of course, she saw more from the side....but still she could see i was shaving there...omg...I still cringe...but I have to laugh otherwise I would cry...ha,ha,ha.......

cl-sandif2008
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Mon, 07-07-2008 - 11:50pm
I'm sorry, cant laugh with you just yet and still havent gotten to the point of seeing the humor in mine yet.

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Tue, 07-08-2008 - 12:03am
Well thankfully my DD didn't get that good of a look because of the angle....I am sure one day you will be able to at least chuckle a little bit...it is kinda funny that your mom wasn't mortified......I know I was...and my DH when I told him....Just think there are worse things you could see I guess...actually maybe no you shouldn't try to thing of those things either.....

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