LOVE being on top but...

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LOVE being on top but...
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Sun, 04-03-2005 - 3:49pm

hahahah there's always a BUT

so yeah this guy i'm w/ now i'm able to have an orgasm while having sex if i'm on top. it feels a lot better w/ him than anyone else i've been with but the only way i can have an orgasm is if i collapse and grind into him. no complaints on his end as far i know but it always ends up like that. if we start w/ me on top we'll be facing each other looking at each other, hands free to roam then BAM! i'm laying on him and working it hard.

anyone else like this?
what other ways can i try to achieve an orgasm while having sex?

 

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sun, 04-03-2005 - 6:32pm

Just to make sure I'm reading you right, are you asking for other ways to O

or

with other positions as well?

Even woman on top can be fun in multiple positions so long as his penis curvature can handle it, such as reverse cowgirl or you riding him while he's on a chair etc. etc.

You'll get great ideas from this group on this board for sure, but your best bet is to keep experimenting anyway, and make sure you have fun doing so.

Just a small personal note, Mrs. Para & I don't mind at all if we orgasm more in one particular position than others, but then again, multiple orgasms make it more fun in any position when they occur as well.

 

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Sun, 04-03-2005 - 10:48pm
You are very fortunate to have found a position that allows you to orgasm while having intercourse. The majority of women need manual or oral stimulation to achieve orgasm. Why not just keep improving what you have going for you with you on top?
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Mon, 04-04-2005 - 12:36am
no either or.
he's tried rubbing my clit while i'm on top (upright) but i dont get anything from that.

 

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Mon, 04-04-2005 - 12:39am

i know it's rare...very rare. i thought it was impossible till it happened. but what's happening (i think) is that i'm rubbing my clit on his pelvic bone so it's not like it's happening from sex alone. do you know what i mean? i can invision it but just wondering if you and i are on the same page.

we experiment w/ other positions, and i feel...ermm well it feels good its just that it doesnt ever get to that point unless i'm on top (due to the aforementioned)

 

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Tue, 04-05-2005 - 5:09pm
hockeybabe, did you know over 70% of women cant orgasm during intercourse?...If they used the technique that you are using, many more women could orgasm. The way you are describing is the way millions of women to do it in order to cum during sex. Have you bf try to find your g spot during oral sex...if he incerts a finger or two (palm side up) and then makes the "come here" motion with his fingers (while hes licking your clit) it can lead to really nice orgasms for you.Once you find it that way, you may be able to find it in other sex positions..Isnt learning fun?...lol
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Wed, 04-06-2005 - 1:56am

" What other ways can I try to achieve orgasm while having sex? " In any position that allow you to grind your clitoris into his pubic bone OR that allows you to stimulate yourself.

MOST of us have our tried and true position that we fall back on though. Nothing wrong with that.




Edited 4/6/2005 1:58 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Wed, 04-06-2005 - 10:50am

"The way you are describing is the way millions of women to do it in order to cum during sex"

- I've never come.

"Have you bf try to find your g spot during oral sex...if he incerts a finger or two (palm side up) and then makes the "come here" motion with his fingers (while hes licking your clit) it can lead to really nice orgasms for you."

- yes I'm aware of this, other men have done it...the guy I'm with now doens't do oral..never has. Says it's not his thing. *shrugs*

 

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Thu, 04-07-2005 - 4:27am

When you said you thought it was impossible till it happened, I wondered if you tried a toy that was effective enough for you. Many women that have them reported finding out more about themselves sexually, that in turn made it easier for them to figure out what worked better when it came to orgasms while with the partner.

Just a quick thought while skimming through the posts. If you don't have one, maybe getting one wouldn't be too bad of an idea, especially since you don't receive oral, which is too bad.

 

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Thu, 04-07-2005 - 1:02pm
it is VERY too bad :(
i have a vibrator which i've been thinking of using.