Love Isn't Always Enough!

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Love Isn't Always Enough!
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Wed, 07-04-2007 - 1:20pm

Until recently I never understood the saying "LOVE ISN'T ALWAYS ENOUGH", but the truth is it's not. As a young girl growing up I couldnt' wait to fall in love and get married, at that age you don't worry about sexual chemistry. I always hear guys bitch about how they don't get enough sex, well our rolls are reversed because it's me doing the bitching. I must face the facts that either my husband is not attracted to me or is a very greedy lover. Sex for us women is more than just pleasure, its also a way to receive and give love. If you do something that feels good, wouldn't you want to do it more often? A while back I talked my husband into taking a bubble bath together. We were both a little stressed and I wanted to make him feel better. I took my time and very gently washed his entire body. Once done I washed his hair, I know he enjoyed it because he was very relaxed had is eyes closed. Shortly after I was done he decided he didn't want to be in the bath anymore and got out. He sat by the tub as I washed my own body with the sponge I had used on him. ARGH I felt cold, humiliated, unloved so I started to cry. Was it to much for him to have returned the love without me having to ask? Am I wrong for feeling this way? Sex for us is the same way(when we have it). It feels cold to me, like something is missing, he is more worried about himself then trying to pleasure me. If I'm not ready (wet) he spits in his hand to lubricate me. He knows I hate this because I've told him. I want the forplay, I want him to touch me with love, I want him to feel like he can't get enough of me. I've tried to tell him what I want, I've shown him how I want to be touched. (I know you guys can't read our minds) Maybe I've read to many romance books, but I'm tired of asking for it then being rejected, tired of telling him over and over what I need and want. I'm sorry but I dont't have the time to write a instructions manual. I've bought toys, videos, told him my fantasy. I'm lost-confused-hurt-lonely-and worried I will try to find what I'm missing somewhere else. He knows this as well because I've told him. I don't doubt him when he says I love you, but "actions speak louder buddy" This would be easy if our relationship was bad, but it's great outside the bedroom. Should I be happy with what I have, should I just let this go. ARGH so confusing. Is someone out there having a similar problem??????

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 11:43am
or something,lol Hmmmm, I better be good here,lol
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Registered: 07-04-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 12:06pm

hmmm yes me to! lol

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 12:10pm
Hmmm, that isn't to much fun though, espically since I have this big appetite this morning
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Registered: 07-04-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 12:15pm
hmmm control must be hard to come by, when the sweet tooth has a craving!
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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 12:18pm
Oh yes it is, esp, if you throw in a sweet tongue and lips,
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Registered: 07-04-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:04pm

LOL- somebody stop him. People are going to wonder why I'm sitting at my desk with a goofy grin on my face. :)
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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:07pm
Hmmm, ok I will behave, since you are at work, lol, dang I hate when I have to be good
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Registered: 07-04-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:12pm
Well some of us do have to work you know!!!!!!
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Registered: 07-04-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:15pm
As you can see I'm working real hard!
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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:16pm
Hmmm I go in at midnight,I know but it was fun knowing I could make you smile, esp at work
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