Love Isn't Always Enough!

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Love Isn't Always Enough!
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Wed, 07-04-2007 - 1:20pm

Until recently I never understood the saying "LOVE ISN'T ALWAYS ENOUGH", but the truth is it's not. As a young girl growing up I couldnt' wait to fall in love and get married, at that age you don't worry about sexual chemistry. I always hear guys bitch about how they don't get enough sex, well our rolls are reversed because it's me doing the bitching. I must face the facts that either my husband is not attracted to me or is a very greedy lover. Sex for us women is more than just pleasure, its also a way to receive and give love. If you do something that feels good, wouldn't you want to do it more often? A while back I talked my husband into taking a bubble bath together. We were both a little stressed and I wanted to make him feel better. I took my time and very gently washed his entire body. Once done I washed his hair, I know he enjoyed it because he was very relaxed had is eyes closed. Shortly after I was done he decided he didn't want to be in the bath anymore and got out. He sat by the tub as I washed my own body with the sponge I had used on him. ARGH I felt cold, humiliated, unloved so I started to cry. Was it to much for him to have returned the love without me having to ask? Am I wrong for feeling this way? Sex for us is the same way(when we have it). It feels cold to me, like something is missing, he is more worried about himself then trying to pleasure me. If I'm not ready (wet) he spits in his hand to lubricate me. He knows I hate this because I've told him. I want the forplay, I want him to touch me with love, I want him to feel like he can't get enough of me. I've tried to tell him what I want, I've shown him how I want to be touched. (I know you guys can't read our minds) Maybe I've read to many romance books, but I'm tired of asking for it then being rejected, tired of telling him over and over what I need and want. I'm sorry but I dont't have the time to write a instructions manual. I've bought toys, videos, told him my fantasy. I'm lost-confused-hurt-lonely-and worried I will try to find what I'm missing somewhere else. He knows this as well because I've told him. I don't doubt him when he says I love you, but "actions speak louder buddy" This would be easy if our relationship was bad, but it's great outside the bedroom. Should I be happy with what I have, should I just let this go. ARGH so confusing. Is someone out there having a similar problem??????

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:19pm
Hmmm not a good choice of words,lol,
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:33pm
LOL--- hmmmmm maybe I should try harder. I know--- not the best choice of words again... Sometimes I just can't help myself! :)=
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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:37pm
Hmmm, you are going to get me started again, lol, I'm trying to be nice, and remember my appetite for sweets
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Registered: 07-04-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:40pm
LOL---ok ok I will try to be good! Just not as fun.
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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:43pm
mmmm, I agree, and I like FUN, lol, esp. in my state today ;)
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:47pm
You do know sweets can give you a toothache!
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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:48pm
That's ok I have some tequila around it will numb it!
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:54pm
LOL... Can't win can I !!!!
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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:57pm
Sure you can!!!! LOL
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Registered: 07-04-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:01pm
LOL ok wrong thing to say again!