Lowering a sex drive?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-16-2005
Lowering a sex drive?
3
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 4:27pm
I have a very high sex drive and my Husband doesn't in fact I will have to go almost a month with out it and that it way too long for me (everyday is perfect) but I want to try and find a way to lower my sex drive so that it will complement his not annoy him. does anyone have any suggestions?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 4:40pm

Since you said you'll have to wait a month now, I'm taking it that your husband only wants sex once a month?


bounxh0a-1.gif picture by dillbyrd

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-16-2005
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 5:32pm
well we have talked about it but he is just not in the mood alot and I am always in the mood. we have talked about compromise I just always want it and I would love to not want it every second of every day.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2005
Wed, 08-17-2005 - 12:07am

"Libido" is part hormones, and part mental. You can't do anything about the hormones, and you wouldn't WANT to. You CAN try to stop thinking about it so much.

Has he had a good physical including hormone tests? Maybe he should have one done. It could be a hormone imbalance on his part.

Also, as was suggested, communication about your feelings and needs......and finding a compromise that you can both live with. Once a month isn't much.......he should be able to up that to at least once a week, IF he cares about your feelings. Make it a Saturday nite event! At least you'll have something to look forward to!

As for him being annoyed.......does he think it's fair that YOU are also annoyed for a month at a time?