Major problem, need help!

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Major problem, need help!
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 5:41pm

My boyfriend and I have been apart for six months, doing a long distance relationship. I am on vacation visiting him and today we tried to have sex and it was extremely uncomfortable for me and we couldn't find a position that worked for me. The only we seem to be able to please each other efficiently is through our hands and oral sex. Any suggestions? I dont like being sore for no reason, if you catch what I'm saying? :)

If anyone could help us, it will be greatly appreciated!

Vivre bien,
Jade

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Registered: 04-27-2006
Mon, 12-04-2006 - 8:34pm
This is a guess of course, but if there was not enough foreplay, you may not have been aroused enough for him to enter you comfortably. Sex is more than intercourse, if he performs plenty of foreplay on you, kissing you, caressing you all over your body are what is needed to get you fully aroused and lubricated so he can enter you easily when you are both ready to have intercourse. My girlfriend and I take anywhere from an half hour to an hour with foreplay before we progress to having intercourse. All of it is sex and you should just relax and enjoy the ride. Good luck.
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Registered: 12-05-2006
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 2:43am

Well, Jade.

It all depends on your preference. By the sound of your sore comment, I'd say you can handle alot. So why not suggest trying something new? It may be smart to talk to him about it... Let him know what you think about it and think for a while, explore your mind and knowledge and see if you can think of a way that you might want to try and go for it. It would be hard after being apart for so long. Things can change. But whatever you choose, don't leave him in the dark about it. That way, he doesn't think it's all him... Explain to him and assure him that it's a general thing, and not his fault. Then you two can work together and find a mutual ground so everyone's happy and satisfied in the end.

Don't be afraid to have a bit of fun with it. Now, if this is about trying something knew... It'll be a little hard for me to answer, considering I don't know you or your partner, so I can't settle to a level where it's between boring and extreme for you. Hopefully my advice helps though.