Make him stop laughing!!
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| Thu, 02-03-2005 - 7:28pm |
This is a little strange. My boyfriend really really really wants me to give him a blowjob. I like giving bjs, and i swollow, it really turns me on, and my boyfriends is so incredibly hot, that i cant wait to jump him anytime we are alone. The problem is, every single time i try to give him a bj, every single time, he starts giggling and laughing. Now i understand, hes 19...im 19. but in every other aspect of our relationship and his life, hes not immature. Ive tried talking about it to him, but he just says it makes him nervous...how can i make him not nervous, so i can have my way with him? I really want to know how i can make him comfortable enough to just relax, because i know he wants me to and i want to too, but the giggling infuriates me to no end!
thanks for the advice!~

Well, he's not laughing AT you......it's a nervous laugh. He can't help it, so how do you think YOU can stop him?
Why don't you just ignore it and do what you want to do. Maybe when he gets more of it he won't be so nervous about it.
Have you told him that this reaction bothers you? IF not, then it's time. Just tell him that it makes the experience less enjoyable for you and you'd like for him to try and control it. As GTB pointed out, this is probably an involuntary reponse to nerves or excitement. He isn't laughing because it's funny though. Just be patient, this will take some time to learn to control.
BTW, I hope he is reciprocating before or afterwards!
Oh, i have stopped. I cant when he giggles. it makes me self conscious even though i know hes not laughing at me. This whole thing is so weird to me, because he practically begs me to and of course i agree, but as soon as i start, he gets this look on his face, not a bad look, but i know hes nervous and trying not to laugh (cause he knows it bothers me); and it totally breaks the mood. i sat him down and we talked about it, i told him i still consider oral an act of
trust on both our parts. its still a sexual act that id like to share with him. i want him to be comfortable with it, and think of it more like he thinks of sex. its not meaningless, and we do it because we love each other, its not a joke or a game. i think thats why i have such a problem with him laughing; it makes me feel kinda cheap like its meaningless to him. i know its not, but thats how i feel. I really honestly dont know what makes him so nervous about it. i mean weve both seen each other naked, weve made love, we share everything...its just this one silly thing. i just wish him laughing didnt bother me so much...
(to answer the earlier post: he does return the favor )
He does know that you are comfortable with him cumming in your mouth, doesn't he? I'm always a bit nervous about a first BJ if I don't know what the woman likes - in her mouth, out her mouth, spit/swallow,.. you know.
he knows i swallow. thats one of the reasons he so eager...hes never had a gf that would.
but thanks for the advice! i guess im just gonna have to bite the bullet....wow, very wrong analogy....and just do it. hopefully the laughter will stop...cross my fingers...
thanks again!!
inaudiblyfree