Make him stop laughing!!

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Registered: 10-22-2003
Make him stop laughing!!
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Thu, 02-03-2005 - 7:28pm

This is a little strange. My boyfriend really really really wants me to give him a blowjob. I like giving bjs, and i swollow, it really turns me on, and my boyfriends is so incredibly hot, that i cant wait to jump him anytime we are alone. The problem is, every single time i try to give him a bj, every single time, he starts giggling and laughing. Now i understand, hes 19...im 19. but in every other aspect of our relationship and his life, hes not immature. Ive tried talking about it to him, but he just says it makes him nervous...how can i make him not nervous, so i can have my way with him? I really want to know how i can make him comfortable enough to just relax, because i know he wants me to and i want to too, but the giggling infuriates me to no end!

thanks for the advice!~

I was married Sept. 27, 2009 to the man of my dreams!
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Fri, 02-04-2005 - 12:16am

Well, he's not laughing AT you......it's a nervous laugh. He can't help it, so how do you think YOU can stop him?

Why don't you just ignore it and do what you want to do. Maybe when he gets more of it he won't be so nervous about it.

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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 4:26pm

Have you told him that this reaction bothers you? IF not, then it's time. Just tell him that it makes the experience less enjoyable for you and you'd like for him to try and control it. As GTB pointed out, this is probably an involuntary reponse to nerves or excitement. He isn't laughing because it's funny though. Just be patient, this will take some time to learn to control.

BTW, I hope he is reciprocating before or afterwards!

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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 4:39pm
You could try taping his mouth shut. :o) Or, you could tell him he ain't getting it until he can control his laughter. Thinking back to when I was 19, if I had a girlfriend willing to go down AND swallow, I would just bite my lip to keep from laughing. Good luck.
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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 4:49pm
Why not just try stopping for awhile...it'll take the edge and the pressure off of him. I can't see that he's getting much out of it if he's that nervous. I remember when I used to get oral when I was young, my mind was in control of the situation and enjoying it was difficult. I would ask him whether or not he would like you to stop for a while until he's more comfortable with it.
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 6:46pm

Oh, i have stopped. I cant when he giggles. it makes me self conscious even though i know hes not laughing at me. This whole thing is so weird to me, because he practically begs me to and of course i agree, but as soon as i start, he gets this look on his face, not a bad look, but i know hes nervous and trying not to laugh (cause he knows it bothers me); and it totally breaks the mood. i sat him down and we talked about it, i told him i still consider oral an act of
trust on both our parts. its still a sexual act that id like to share with him. i want him to be comfortable with it, and think of it more like he thinks of sex. its not meaningless, and we do it because we love each other, its not a joke or a game. i think thats why i have such a problem with him laughing; it makes me feel kinda cheap like its meaningless to him. i know its not, but thats how i feel. I really honestly dont know what makes him so nervous about it. i mean weve both seen each other naked, weve made love, we share everything...its just this one silly thing. i just wish him laughing didnt bother me so much...

(to answer the earlier post: he does return the favor )

I was married Sept. 27, 2009 to the man of my dreams!
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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 6:50pm
I guess the ball's in his court now, huh?
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Sat, 02-05-2005 - 5:49am
I think that you've probably made him more nervous by talking to him about it. If I were you I would take a deep breath one day and just do it to him until he cums and ignore the giggling. Once it's done he should be less nervous the next time and, hopefully, have no need for nervous giggling any more.
He does know that you are comfortable with him cumming in your mouth, doesn't he? I'm always a bit nervous about a first BJ if I don't know what the woman likes - in her mouth, out her mouth, spit/swallow,.. you know.
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Sat, 02-05-2005 - 10:39am

he knows i swallow. thats one of the reasons he so eager...hes never had a gf that would.

but thanks for the advice! i guess im just gonna have to bite the bullet....wow, very wrong analogy....and just do it. hopefully the laughter will stop...cross my fingers...

thanks again!!

inaudiblyfree

I was married Sept. 27, 2009 to the man of my dreams!
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Sat, 02-05-2005 - 12:16pm
He's nervous, you're self conscious, not a very good combination! One of you has to start acting like a mature adult!
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Sun, 02-06-2005 - 1:47pm
wow, you are incredibly insulting. since when has nervousness and self consciencness been a sign that one is immature? That is what i truly hate about this site, i cant seem to post any problem i have, without someone saying something like that to me. Why is everyone so judgemental here? Just because we are only 19 you assume we are immature. Hes nervouse because he loves me and doesnt want to dissapoint me, and im self conscience because all my life ive been called fat and ugly by my ever so wonderful family, so leave the criticizim at the door, especially where there is not reason for them.
I was married Sept. 27, 2009 to the man of my dreams!