make love or just.............

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Registered: 12-20-2004
make love or just.............
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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 3:28pm
When my DW and I first started dating, she said something to me that made me think... she said "You know sometimes you want to make love, and some times you just what to F..."
Im guessing sometimes some women want to leave emotion out of it and just have raw sex...Comments??
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Registered: 09-25-2004
Fri, 03-18-2005 - 6:57am

Why does eye contact make you icky?

Is there something about your DH watching you while you're making love that bothers you? Sometimes I get a little unnerved while DH and I are making love and he makes it a point to look into my eyes for long periods of time..Other times I like looking and seeing the love in his eyes...

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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 9:17am
Back when my DW made the comment "sometimes you just want to F......, she had not had sex in 16 months, we had never been together before...We met on line and were friends for over a year before we sensed that there was something more. She told me she had never been in love before, only that she had had only boyfriends before, but knew they were not "the one." Even though she enjoyed sex with others and orgasmed, she said she was never really able to "let go" with anyone else before me.Im thinking If I were to ask her now about just wanting to F.......now, she would say that emotion is always involved. I notice that sometimes she doesnt want foreplay, shes already "ready" and just wants to get on with it immediately!..So in those occations, its more about getting it on and no lovey dovey stuff..lol
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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 3:15pm

I don't know why. Sometimes it makes me feel too vulnerable and sometimes it gives me the giggles. I've never been able to maintain contact long enough to detect love in the eyes of my partner. My lack of eye contact is not related to love (or lack there of) in any way.

I should also mention that my DS is autistic and I believe that I'm on the borderline of the spectrum. Lack of ability to do eye contact is a very frequent indication of autism.

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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 4:23pm
OMG! I do know who you are :) I won't say your old handle because I am not sure if you want it known. I was going to ask if you're still around, and I guess you are :) BTW, i don't think it's weird at all that you're not into eye contact. I'm not either, for me it starts to feel like they're waiting for a reaction or reading what you're feeling instead of just throwing themselves into the moment. Makes me feel put on the spot, like I need ot keep some look of love or ecstacy on my face LOL. Not my thing :P
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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 6:36pm
I can make eye contact with him during intercourse, especially if I'm on top. But while receiving oral I have to shut my eyes. And it's just too physically cumbersome to look at him while 'm performing oral.


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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 9:56pm

I'm glad you figured out who I am now ;-)

>>for me it starts to feel like they're waiting for a reaction or reading what you're feeling instead of just throwing themselves into the moment. Makes me feel put on the spot, like I need ot keep some look of love or ecstacy on my face LOL.<<

yep, all that stuff too. It makes me feel like I'm being analysed.

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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 10:16pm

"I'm glad you figured out who I am now ;-)"

I'm just glad you're still around, you're a very interesting person. You always make me think, even if I don't agree LOL.

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Fri, 03-18-2005 - 11:21pm

"she said "You know sometimes you want to make love, and some times you just what to F..."
Im guessing sometimes some women want to leave emotion out of it and just have raw sex...Comments??""

Somehow I just don't understand this distinction - "making love or just ..........".
What exactly do you mean?
Is it the speed ? The presence or lack of foreplay? Do you mean you just start out with intercourse? Is it the duration?

I know these questions may sound absurd, but I just don't get it. Sometimes DW and I take our time with foreplay, sometimes we're more hurried, sometimes I thrust gently during IC, other times quite vigorously. Occasionally I just get on top of her without any preliminaries ( we use lube). But we ALWAYS "make love" and there is always an emotional connection.

So I just don't get what you mean by "raw sex".
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Sat, 03-19-2005 - 11:01am

IMO everytime two or more bodies connect sexually it's sex, raw or not.

I equate 'making love' as to taking your time to sharing each other's caressing, teasing, and fondling. 'Making love' allows time for trying new moves, conversations, and enjoying each other to the maximum.

Raw sex, IMO, is solely the act of getting off with very little fondling. I equate raw sex to the couch, car & kitchen - you see, you want, you touch, you get. Both are enjoyable and both are with someone you love/care deeply about.

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Sat, 03-19-2005 - 4:28pm

>>I equate 'making love' as to taking your time to sharing each other's caressing, teasing, and fondling. 'Making love' allows time for trying new moves, conversations, and enjoying each other to the maximum.<<

But by that definition, one could "make love" to a one night stand. Would that suit your definition?

(I still have no idea what "making love" means LOL)

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