makin love stories

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makin love stories
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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 6:43am
How did everyone felt when they were made love to for the first time? With me, it was by far the best experience I ever felt. I was never made love to before being with my current boyfriend... but with his situation of being in the Army and me waiting until I was really in love with me, it made the wait worth wild! :) I even forget that I wasn't a technical non-virgin because to me, he's really, truly was my first (and hopefully my last).

So feel free to share your stories. Don't get into details though (kinda sacred between you and your DB/DH) but express how you felt the first time!


Bee

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Tue, 10-26-2004 - 7:35am
>>I wasn't a technical non-virgin<< forgive me, but I've read this phrase over and over again....but don't know what you mean. We're you a virgin or not before this experience?

Because of this technicality, I'm not sure what you are asking. Is "made love to for the first time" a euphamism for first time intercourse....or do you mean the first time that we had intercourse with some type of spiritual connection?

Anyway, if it's the former, it was very disappointing. In the back seat of my b/f's car - he wasn't keen to do it, and I had kinda pushed him into it. We had no contraception and so used 'withdrawl' method. Not surprisingly, he lasted about 3 strokes before he pulled out. I felt quite grubby and sad afterwards.

If it's the latter, I can't help you - I've never "made love" with someone. I'm not a very spiritual person LOL

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 7:57am
The first time for me was a real let down, I was disappionted because I waited to meet the right person and it could have been so special if we'd taken more time. I dreamed of rose petals and candlelight but ended up with a slightly drunken grope that went too far. I stayed with the guy for two years though and it did get better, but he always was selfish and I should have realised that at the time!

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 8:16am
>>I wasn't a technical non-virgin<< <<>>

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 9:43am
>>Because of this technicality, I'm not sure what you are asking. Is "made love to for the first time" a euphamism for first time intercourse....or do you mean the first time that we had intercourse with some type of spiritual connection?<<

As for answering your question, I was refering to the later! And that happened when I first made love to my current boyfriend. The whole experience left me in tears... of joy of course! But funny, considering that I only had less than a handful of partners in my life and he was the lucky one.

But as for the former, technically... my first time was very uncomfortable. I was helping my boyfriend with his college paper (since I was good with writing papers) and one thing led to the other. What really made it uncomfty is that he was very well-endowed and didn't know what he was doing. It took us 15 minutes to finally get more than 3" in because it kept on slipping out. That was the only time we had sex. I was crying for days because it hurt that much.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Tue, 10-26-2004 - 5:48pm
I'm with you on the word *technical* - I use it too. But it was the combination of a double negative used with the word technical that confused me. Anyway, thanks to the OP, I now know what she meant :-)

To the O/P, that's a wonderful experience for you. Congratulations.

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 8:26pm
well we talked about it, it was my first, but not his.. it was w/ my current boyfriend, and i told him when i was ready, etc. and then i decided i was but the conditions weren't right. i knew i'd be nervous even though i knew i was ready.. so we were of course safe and such. it wasn't "magical" and i knew it wouldn't be like the movies. i knew it'd be awkward, he isn't really experienced at all despite not being a virgin at the time, so it was like 2 of us like uhhh..haha. so i'm glad i just had the normal expectation of it being a bit weird/uncomfortable, and take some getting used to, which it did, and now we have a great healthy/satisfying relationship, and we defintely 'make love' and have a great connection. it's such an amazing way to express how u feel about someone. i couldn't be any happier that i waited!


<3cari

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Registered: 10-04-2004
Wed, 10-27-2004 - 9:20am
I tend to see "sex" and "making love" as being quite different. I would love to forget my 1st time having sex. I was 18, and it hurt like hell, I bled for almost a week. Not to mention afterwards, he met my parents for the 1st time that night as well. Talk about akward!

As far as making love, the biggest connection I've felt with someone so far is with my current SO. Probably because we held off from sex for over a month, which I've never done in the past. But I think we both felt we didn't want to rush into things and risk screwing up a good thing. It was strange how in tune with eachother we were the 1st time, there was no shyness or akwardness that there usually tends to be, and I loved the eye contact during.