Male member too small!

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Male member too small!
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Wed, 08-08-2007 - 1:47pm
Okay everyone. I have been married forever. Had an affair. Found out husband is way, WAY small. Now affair over. Husband cannot please me. What can I do?????????
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 2:50pm

Welcome to the board alistan.

Personally, I feel that size is not the determining factor in whether or not you can be sexually satisfied. You didn't mention if you were satisfied with your husband prior to your affair, but either way, there's nothing you can do to change his size.

If you are interested in saving your marriage, you could talk with your husband to see if the two of you could come to a solution together. Couples counseling with a trained sex therapist may also be helpful. Obviously, something led you to have an affair in the first place, so counseling can be beneficial there as well.



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Registered: 10-16-2006
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 12:27am
What's forever, what's way small, and how did you get by before now?
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 10:02am

If he can't "please" you......it's not because his penis is small! Pleasure comes from a lot more than intercourse....and if he's not "pleasing" you in other ways before during or after intercourse, then he needs to be educated. Meaning show him HOW to "please" you.

The affair with the larger penis was a novelty, and had/has very little to do with sexual pleasure. That comes from foreplay, and from "feelings". If you had an affair, it's a pretty good bet that there were problems in your marriage first, and since you weren't aware that your husband's penis was small till you had something to compare it to.....then the problems weren't because of his small penis.

If there are problems in your marriage, the size of his penis isn't the cause....figure out the problems if possible, and work on them. If they can't be fixed, then get a divorce and find someone who CAN "please" you.

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Registered: 08-07-2007
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 7:21pm

I agree, sexual pleasure comes from more than intercourse. My husband is much smaller than my ex and yet the sex is WAY better. I get turned on by so much more than intercourse. You really need to look inside yourself and find out what is displeasing you about your husband. Sex comes from the whole package: emotions, senses, feelings... You may need to get some help to find out what you think is missing.

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Registered: 06-29-2006
Sun, 08-12-2007 - 6:58pm
You have every right to expect your husband to provide you with the largest penis possible!
I suggest you tell him to take the money he has wasted on providing you with food and shelter and invest it in a woman who is able to do nicely with whatever physically he has to offer.
As a going away present, he might be able to purchase for you an extremely large dildo.
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 08-15-2007 - 12:08pm

Your kindness is so moving.

But don't worry too much about him wasting his money on me...he has used it to get us into huge debt and get US in trouble with the IRS. I'm the one that is bailing him out (keeping my kid's dad out of jail)and trying to cope with the bills. He is also verbally abusive to me which is probably which I was seeking comfort with someone else. But, alas!, I couldn't deal with the guilty and am trying to rekindle my love for him and give us one last chance before calling it quits.

I was sincerely hoping someone could give me suggestions how to help me feel more satisfied with my husband because, unfortunately, size can make a difference.

To all who offered kindness...thank you.

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Registered: 08-15-2007
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 5:07pm
Try a Penis Pump never used one but who knows, I have used a C O C K Ring and they work pretty good i think, might get a lil to hard, just get a metal one , the rubber ones strecth out over time. Whats to small though? I consider my self normal or a lil small at 6.5-7 inches and i am a bigger guy, lose some weight might get me to the 8 inches area! lol...either way I am sure at some point most men are with women that have had bigger at some time in their life, but yet the sex is better or can be better or will be better. It can work , maybe toys / attidue / and commetment is all it needs

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Registered: 06-29-2006
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 10:46pm
I always get a kick out of one member of a two party program laying the blame for ANY failure in their union on the other member. Be it their sex life, or their financial situation, when two people are in a relationship that one of them describes as "forever", it took both of them to create whatever it was that the union prodeced.
There is NOTHING that he can do to make his penis larger. This, however isn't true for the firmness of your vagina. Kegal exercizes can and do improve the fit for BOTH members involved in the relationship.
Did your affair partner offer any suggestions to help you with your financial problems?
Obviously, he wasn't able to solve your sexual issues.
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