The Male Orgasm

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Registered: 09-25-2004
The Male Orgasm
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Tue, 05-03-2005 - 6:01pm
We've read and heard it all about the female orgasm and the likes associated with the female orgasm...My question is, what about the male orgasm? How can I know that my husband had an orgasm during sex? Can a man ejaculate w/o having an orgasm? These are things I don't know and I feel terribly silly for not knowing them, but I'm at a point where I'd like to know so that I can satisfy my husband the way he deserves to be.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: jenniekg
Tue, 05-03-2005 - 7:36pm

I think that I've heard about ejeculation without orgasm, but you're more likely to hear about orgasm without ejeculation. Tantric sex practiced in India for thousands of years teaches men to have orgasms without ejeculation. I couldn't say how many guys have learnt that trick though. Probably not very many. I think that 99% of men probably just have the good ol' normal orgasm and ejeculation together.

I would have thought that it'd be fairly obvious when a guy cums. The thrusting increases, his body tenses up and he may get very vocal, or very quiet. Then he'll pause, tense up, usually groan or something, and you'll be able to feel his penis pulsing and swelling. Of course, if you can see his penis it'll be pretty obvious because of the semen ejeculated.

Someone once said that it's a lot like a big sneeze. It tickles away for a while slowly building up until you reach that point where you can't stop it. And then Ah, ah!, ah! Achoo....!!

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: jenniekg
Tue, 05-03-2005 - 10:02pm
It's possible to ejaculate without orgasm and orgasm without ejaculation.

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Registered: 07-22-2004
In reply to: jenniekg
Tue, 05-03-2005 - 10:42pm

Don't think I could do any better than the replies so far. Just wanted to add though that think the best way to please a man is to 'allow' him to say/show what pleases him him feeling guilty about it.

Not a big secret, but by what I hear/read so often, it sure seems to be anyway for some reason, lol.

Other than that, the others are right. Sometimes some guys may ejac without an actual orgasm whereas some others may be just the opposite at times too. Lately, I've been neither of those, but when I was younger, sure, I've experienced both. Neither normal nor unnormal IMO, just happens at times for some guys.

I think the orgasm for your man is still more of a learning experience. Mrs. Para thinks I've had one at times and then is surprised when I haven't. Oh well, we enjoy anyway.

 

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Registered: 09-25-2004
In reply to: jenniekg
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 10:29am
To reply to West, I do know when he ejaculates...It usually winds up in my hair..*LOL* He's afraid to ejac inside me being this far along in pregnancy..I know when he is about to explode, because of the intensity..He's not very vocal and sometimes that bothers me because I had that silly preconceived notion that all people were vocal during sex. I've learned that it isn't so. I know that if he didn't enjoy sex, he'd say something about it. In fact, he's saying we're not having ENOUGH sex..That we need MORE! *LOL* But, what I was looking for was a perspective on the male orgasm..Is it the same as a female orgasm? But, thank you all because you did help! :)