Male sexual issue

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Registered: 11-11-2006
Male sexual issue
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Wed, 11-22-2006 - 4:09pm
Here is the deal. I have been a long distance relationship for a while 8 months. She is hot and has a great personality. we both like eachother alot. i see her about every week for the past 2 months since the last 6 months she was going though some issues in her life then i was seeign her 1-2 times a month. i have sex with her three times! both times i either went too fast or lost my erection half way though it.. due to a phone ringing or some other distraction. now i can get it up but the though of having sex scares me since im affraid i will fail again. she is also imtimitating due to her great looks and personality. she has had many guys that were really good in bed i feel like i have to stand up to that. i have never had issues with sex like this.. i have noticed that over time i have lost my desire for sex but im 28?!?!?!? and im not gay! what is the deal? im i just scared of failing???
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: tchin21
Wed, 11-22-2006 - 4:51pm

Your problems are caused by your own insecurities.


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Registered: 11-11-2006
In reply to: tchin21
Wed, 11-22-2006 - 5:19pm
Well the thing is I had these problems before I knew about her ex's. It started when I started dating her.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: tchin21
Wed, 11-22-2006 - 6:05pm

>>she is also imtimitating due to her great looks and personality.<<

Look, she still puts her pants on one leg at a time and farts and burps. She might be intimidating but she is also just a person. You've already broken the ice so to speak by having had sex with her three times. She came back for more twice so you must have been doing something right the first time. The hard part is actually over.

As for losing your erection? Yeah, it's the pressure that you are putting on yourself that is causing it to happen. I would have thought that you'd be over it by now. As I said, you've already had sex and have got through the most difficult part. Have some faith in yourself. Use the next few times with her to find out what makes her feel good and practice your skills and techniques on her and I'm sure that everything will go fine. After-all, the only reason it won't go well and you'll lose your erection is because you'll convince yourself that it will happen.

>>i have noticed that over time i have lost my desire for sex but im 28?!?!?!? and im not gay!<<

Being gay has nothing to do with it. If you were gay you'd still want sex - you'd be looking at boys though.

Maybe you're getting a little older and noticing a slight decrease in libido. It happens. More likely you've gotten yourself so stressed out by this that you're suppressing your libido. Another thing, if you don't use it, you can loose it - well, find that you don't want sex as often. Lots of sex will keep you horney, a long term lack of sex reduces your libido too.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: tchin21
Wed, 11-22-2006 - 9:16pm

A few questions for you.


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