man can't go during sex-4 days

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Registered: 09-19-2004
man can't go during sex-4 days
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Mon, 11-27-2006 - 3:58pm
Hi,
I have a friend who asked me to try and find out why her boyfriend can't cum (she doesn't want to use his computer to research this ). They had sex 4 days in a row. He gets aroused but can't cum. I'm married and my DH and I never had this problem. I don't have any info to give her. Has anyone been through this or knows anything about this. I don't know any other specifics. That's all she told me.
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Mon, 11-27-2006 - 4:59pm

Oh, there are all sorts of reasons. One good one is that he might be stressed or worried about something - the sex, fear of pregnancy, his performance, work, the relationship... Any one of those and more could cause a guy to just not quite get there.

Maybe he's been masturbating and hasn't regained the "urge" to cum by the time he has sex? Maybe he's just out of sync with the sex but still aroused by it? I know that I've had the situation where I've not been expecting sex, and have masturbated not long before having it. Can't cum. Next day same thing. Masturbated thinking about the sex the night before and then same problem with sex that night. Four days seems a bit of a stretch but I suppose that it could happen.

Of course, I must ask, how long has it been a problem? If it's just a one-off four day period I wouldn't worry too much about it. But if it's a regular thing, then maybe something else is happening.

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Mon, 11-27-2006 - 7:50pm
Well, I found out that my ex was on coke and oxy. We are divorced now partly because of that, partly because of his affair. I thought it was odd when he had the same problem but I found out later that the drugs were the cause. Later it got to where he could barely get it up at all. Funny, with his new girl and all. I found out he was getting viagra and that was almost revenge enough! lol!
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Tue, 11-28-2006 - 4:09pm
Hi,
Since this is my friend we're talking about, I'm not exactly positive what their sex life is like. I asked her if it's been a problem for a while and she said that it happens occasionally. Most of the time, he's okay. She also mentioned that he has been drinking quite a bit lately. He's in a pretty well known band in Chicago. I'm not sure if that has anything to do with it.
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Tue, 11-28-2006 - 5:36pm

Alcohol is a depressant and


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Tue, 11-28-2006 - 10:59pm
Yep, as tish said, alcohol is a depressant and affects all sorts of body parts negatively - especially if it's used a lot and regularly. Band members are not usually known for their sober habits so it might pay to ask about drug use too. And there is always just things like late nights - a lack of sleep or weird sleep patterns could have an effect too.