manners & phonesex dont go together?

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Registered: 07-20-2007
manners & phonesex dont go together?
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 4:28am

so i started seeing this guy a couple weeks ago and we have kept every non sexual (he's a virgin!) except for conversations.
he's reallly into talking about getting oral sex and since that's all he's ever had, i don't mind - even though sometimes he gets a little carried away.
so tonight he wanted to have phone sex and although i was reluctant(i've done it in the past many times w/ bfs but have grown out of it) i agreed.
while we were doing it he would ask alot of questions " are you hot for me, etc" i was humoring him, telling him what he wanted to hear," yes i am"
at one point he said " are you a dirty bitch?"
and i kind of giggled and said... " no"
then he s like " yes you are"
"...no."
"yes, you are"
"no, but im one turned off bitch"
and i hung up on him.

and i overreacting here? is phone sex fair game to be a pig or what?

ps - i really dont need guys msgsing me privately anymore, i come here for advice from WOMEN and men with some manners, not dirty men who send me rude msgs.

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:40pm

Umm .. you giggled when he said it the first time? I mean after all you were having PHONE SEX. Quoting you:

>> are you a dirty bitch?"
and i kind of giggled and said... " no"
then he s like " yes you are"
"...no."
"yes, you are"
"no, but im one turned off bitch"
and i hung up on him.
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Unless you actually told him BEFORE this time that you didn't like that kind of talk I still think hanging up on him rather than telling him straight OUT not to talk to you like that was rude. If you look up MANNERS it is never right to hang up on someone you care about. Obviously this is the wrong guy for you. Good luck.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:45pm

I don't know why, but it reminded me of something I saw this past winter.

It was well into winter and you know how after snow and salting the roads, and the cold weather is upon us for months, (a lot of people do not wash their cars for a long time), I came upon a white van that was so dirty from the elements that had inscribed on it with a finger "I wish my girlfriend was this dirty." I thought it was funny. tee hee

If you want to play, you have to pay. My advice, is to expect the worst when you play with the devil. I don't know too many people who have "clean" phone sex. ;-) But the truth of the matter is that you'd have to know someone well enough to call them anything so...well...downright nasty. In other words, you don't know him. For all you know, he could truly mean it. Trust is something that comes with time. The only time it's appropriate to call someone that, is when they know that you really don't mean it. More than likely he just wanted a dirty b--- and was feeling you out.

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 07-20-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 7:57pm
I don't want CLEAN phone sex ; i think the fact that i've had phone sex 10000 times says i'm "dirty" enough...for my man, who respects me.
when I say no TWICE he has a choice, keep going and get hung up on or say something else.
he made the wrong choice. end of story!
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Registered: 07-20-2007
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 1:46am
he called and apologized tonight but i said we should just call it quits (too much enegry for someone i really wasnt THAT into). he called back and said if it has to be over just pls dont hate him. so that's what happened! thanx everyone.

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