Married and Bored in the Bedroom
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Married and Bored in the Bedroom
| Tue, 12-05-2006 - 4:39pm |
My husband and I have been together for about 3 1/2 years and have a 2 yr. old daughter. In the beginning the sex was great but for about the last year it has been so boring I don't even want to do it. I have always been a very sexual being and loved to experiment but with the way it is now I would rather not even do it. No foreplay, he just jumps on, does his thing and gets off. Thats it!! He never just comes up to me and touches me or kisses me. I never have orgasms any more. In the beginning it took about 30 seconds. Is this a normal progression in this type of relationship? You know, getting together and having a kid so soon in the relationship? We have talked about doing more foreplay but neither of us ever initiates it. I guess I'm just waiting for him to show some attraction to me. Right now there doesn't seem to be any.

If he doesn't initiate more fun, why don't YOU initiate it?
It takes two to tango......and it takes two to let it get boring! Marriage is a work in progress.....you can't expect the same fireworks that were going on in the beginning, but you also can't expect it to stay the same if you don't put some effort into it.
"I guess I'm just waiting for him to show some attraction to me. Right now there doesn't seem to be any." He might be saying the exact same thing to himself.....ONE of you has to start livening it up......why does it have to be him? You're there too!
Well then START communicating! If you went thru a depression, he was probably used to just not bothering you (which is NOT unusual after having a baby!).....and you have to tell him that things have changed, and you BOTH need to start talking to each other about everything, including sex! If you don't start talking, it's going to get worse, not better! He has to know how you feel, and you have to know how he feels.
Go out and get a sexy nightgown, and SEDUCE him.....
If you've never had to initiate before then nows a good time to start initiating.
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