Masterbating 1st Time Together
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Masterbating 1st Time Together
| Wed, 02-23-2005 - 10:45am |
For some reason none of my exes ever masterbating in front of me but the last two people I have been with did the very first time we slept together (with or without having sex). I am very uncomfortable about this because no one else ever had in front of me and I was (& am) just getting to know them. I am still trying to get comfortable and then they do that! I feel bad saying "don't do that in front of me" and I am also not sure what to do when they are doing it. How many guys do this at the beginning of a relationship? What are your thoughts about this? I really like the new guy I am seeing but am worried about getting too kinky too fast - I feel bad as it is sleeping together sooner than planned.

Well, frankly, I don't know if I would feel comfortable with it either, in the very early stages of a relationship....especially when you're still trying to build trust and intimacy. But I DO think you should speak up since it bothers you. After all, these guys are assuming that you're okay with it when you don't!
IF you want to take things more slowly with your new guy, then tell him and ask for his patience. Some guys are willing to wait and some aren't. But it's your body and you have the right to decide when the time is right for taking that step.
Edited 2/23/2005 11:16 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
The truth is never lame and expectations aren't the reason to continue doing something you don't feel good about. I think honesty is imperative with an intimate partner! And you won't feel right about anything that happens between you if you aren't.
IF he likes you enough, he'll be willing to pull back some. Doesn't mean that you have to stop ALL sexual activity either. Just tell him the truth....that you let things become sexual before you were ready.