Masturbation After Heartbreaking BreakUp

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Registered: 03-28-2007
Masturbation After Heartbreaking BreakUp
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Thu, 04-19-2007 - 12:19pm

It's been almost 3 weeks since my breakup from my bf of 2 years.

The other night, I tried masturbating. Everything was okay until point of orgasm, when I realized I was fantasizing about him. I was imagining everything we would do together, how it would feel ... the tender & the, well, not-so-tender. At orgasm, I just started bawling & didn't stop for a while.

Is this normal? What gives?

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Registered: 01-04-2007
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 12:42pm
Of course this is normal...he was the only man you'd been with in two years...and you probably still have some feelings for him, sexual and otherwise...you just broke up three weeks ago afterall. It's normal to cry also...feeling those sensations reminded you of him and you suddenly realized he wasn't there with you and you got upset. That's okay. Things will get better once you move on a bit more or maybe find a new guy to fantasize about. :) Good luck.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 4:24pm

Welcome to the board notmyrealname23. It can often take a good bit of time to be able to move on after ending a long term relationship. I'm sure that you are missing your ex, and many memories came flooding back to you. Crying is part of the healing process, and I think what you describe is a normal reaction.



A board that you may want to visit is Breaking Up is Hard to Do. One of the CLs there, cl-i_b_sandradee, was actually the April CL of the Month for the Love & Sex channel. There are many resources and a lot of support on that board for people who are in similar situations as you.



While time will help you heal, having a place to talk with others can be very comforting.



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Registered: 04-20-2007
Sat, 04-21-2007 - 3:36am
its completely normal i fantasie about your ex if you didnt you wouldnt be human lol so dont worry