is masturbation a part of your lovmaking

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is masturbation a part of your lovmaking
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Thu, 08-03-2006 - 1:39pm

is masturbation a part of your lovmaking



  • yes
  • no


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 2:16pm
i voted yes, but wanted to clarify that it wasn't really an erotic part of the love-making, more of an assist. i think it is this way because my partner doesn't find it exciting. i've had it be a more charged act with other partners. some people find it a turn on and others just think it shouldn't be a part unless nothing else can get the job done.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 2:48pm

Not always but more often than not it is.


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Registered: 08-03-2006
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 2:17am

Caroline - may I ask if you ever used any other vib than the eroscillator?

thanks ~Tori

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Registered: 03-11-2005
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 7:22am
We do mutual masterbation while watching porno DVD'S as part of foreplay. We usually cum from intercourse or oral sex, but sometimes we cum from masterbation. I will cum on her boobs. I love to see her dildo go in and out of her vagina. She uses either her fingers or a toy. Some of our toys we use for masturbation are:a rabbit type vibrator(Purple Titan), we have 2 jelly vibrating dildos, a black rubber vibrating dildo, a Penthouse Vibrating Golden Egg and a Pocket Rocket. Sometimes I use the Pocket Rocket or the vibrating egg on my penis, but usually I just lube up and go to it.


Edited 2/4/2007 5:10 am ET by oldkinky
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Registered: 08-02-2006
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 8:53am
Oh I think it has alot to do with love making I think its very hot to watch my husband masturbate in front of me....def turns me on
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Registered: 06-27-2005
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 10:18pm
I have to ask about DW's dildo. Does it look like a penis? Is is one of those hard ones or flexable? How long and how big of a diameter? The reason I ask is I have been thinking about getting my DW one for us to use as a bed time toy. Gals if you have any suggestions let me know.
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Registered: 06-27-2005
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 10:24pm
You should have had your choices for gals and your choices for guys. That way we could see which of us masturbate more as part of our love making.
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Registered: 06-13-2006
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 4:40am
I just saw this thread after working all weekend. yes, it is part of our lovemaking. Last night I had the **MOST** intense orgasm thus far in my marriage not from masturbation but from watching my DH stimulate my clit with his fingers. I have recently lost 30 pounds and can see him do this now (same with IC I can see him going in and out of me), and good lord did he ring my bell last night. I made sounds I never knew I was capable of. OK I know this has nothing to do with masturbation really, but when he is doing "whatever" to me, if I reach down and stimulate myself, he goes nuts. DH is not a very vocal lovemaker, unless I am helping him get me off.
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Registered: 05-09-2006
Sat, 02-03-2007 - 1:18pm
I voted "no." Although I love watching a man masturbate, I don't feel comfortable doing it myself. I did do it once for a boyfriend, and he loved it, but he did make a comment about my lips. The problem is that when I masturbate, and I'm getting close, I rub from side to side. And since my lips are pretty large, they sometimes seem to "flap" - I don't really know how to describe it, but they kind of jiggle around. I know this from watching myself masturbate in front of a mirror. So I'm just a bit self-concious about it and prefer to masturbate when I'm alone.
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Registered: 06-27-2005
Sat, 02-03-2007 - 9:09pm
I would not even worry about your lips, they are natural. Sounds like you can make yourself feel good and that is what is important. Everyone is just a little different, that is what makes us great. Some lips move, some puff up with more blood flow, some get a little dark from more blood in that area. The thing you want to remember is to enjoy, and if he wants to watch let him, he should be able to take care of himself in front of you. Try you both taking care of yourself and not touching each other. Show each other what you like and enjoy from masturbateing to using toys on yourselves.

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