masturbation vs. handjob

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2005
masturbation vs. handjob
16
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 8:01am
I was just wondering, does it feel better for a guy to masturbate or receive a handjob? My boyfriend says it feels better to masturbate, but I'm not sure I believe him. When guys are masturbating they can do what they feel they want. So, in general, guys- what feels better- masturbating or receiving a handjob?

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 8:14am

If what you're doing to him while giving him a handjob isn't feeling as good for him, then tell him to guide you.


bounxh0a-1.gif picture by dillbyrd

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-20-2004
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 11:19am
Tish is right, again...If the woman knows his penis and its "good" spots and understands things like grip pressure and tempo or rhythm, then a great handjob is way better. It always feels better if someone else is doing it to you if they know how. There is something to be said to being able to just lie back and enjoy the sensations. (both ways ofcourse)
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2004
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 1:30pm
In terms of pure physical pleasure, I can certainly handle my penis better than someone else can. But in terms of the total experience, its MUCH more exciting and satisfying to receive a hand job. DW says the same.

--


martinisnsushi - living the good life since 1963


CL Redbook "Get Inside His Head"

--


martinisnsushi - the two most important food groups!

Avatar for katmandoo2001
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 3:53pm
ditto.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-25-2003
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 5:15pm

It depends for example, When I masturbate I can do it alone wich is good and relaxing, or I can do it waching my wife's ass and she moves on a provocative way.
Now in this case I can come over me or over her ass or breast (in the shower) is very exiting. And when she gives me a hand jod are two ways the simple wich is just doing the job or when she tells me her sexual fantasies with other man, wich is very very hot.
SO:

1 the lower 5 the higer.

Masturbation alone. 3.0
masturbation watthing her coming over me. 3.5
Masturbaion waching her ass, 4.
Masturbation wachimg her and coming over her ass or breast. 5.
Hand jod simple, 3.5
Hand jog with fantasy 6.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2005
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 9:14pm
I have to disagree with you on that one. As a guy, when I masturbate, it's not always about getting off. It may sound silly, but sometimes it's more of an intimate act and my objective is really not to cum.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-06-2004
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 10:43pm

I'm not replying to anyone in particular... Rather I have a question for all...

Whats the deal with handjobs? I mean my husband has no interest in them, has never asked me for one, and in 8 years he has masturbated as mnay time as I can count on one hand - Like when I've been out of town or recovering after giving birth.

At least every other day there is a post about handjobs - I just dont see how they can be that popular.

Too each his own, my husband is certainly not representative of every other man, but His feeling about them in general is why bother with a lame old hand job when you can have a Blow job or something more...

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2005
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 11:37pm
Think about who's asking about them! Young people with little experience, and not many other options, or at least any that they know about!
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2005
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 11:44pm

You're comparing "apples and oranges"! They're both fruit, but they're both different. There's no reason you can't enjoy both of them! Some days you feel like an apple, other days you feel like having an orange!

Why would you not believe what he tells you? He's been masturbating for a long time, and he knows exactly what to do and how to do it...and he enjoys it. That doesn't mean he doesn't like receiving a hand job...but sometimes he likes to do it himself.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-16-2005 - 1:21am

They're two different sesations and they're some unique advantages to both. I can make myself come much faster from masturbation and its always feels great. When I'm self-servicing, I'm the rhythm and tempo is always just right because I'm in total control.

If she give me a handjob, I might have to direct her a little on slowing down, speeding up, squeezing too hard or not enough. On the other hand, the feeling of her pleasing me is incredibly good. And sometimes -- when she gets it just right -- she gives me something I can only describe as multiple orgasms without making me ejaculate. She's only done this with handjobs. Its so incredibly intense I usually have to make her stop after a few minutes, then when she finishes me I come so hard I can't talk for a few minutes.

Pages