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May Roll Call - Happy You're Here!
| Thu, 05-01-2008 - 8:52am |
If you're a frequent member of this board, please help me in welcoming newer members by letting them get to know you a little better here. Newer members, take a moment to let us know that you are here ....
What would you like us to call you?
Are you male or female?
What's your relationship status?
How's your sex life?





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What would you like us to call you? Kate
Are you male or female? female, 24 yo
What's your relationship status? complicated - prego with 2nd child with ex hubby but in a relationship with another man currently ("T")
How's your sex life? unfortunately nonexistent now - am on "pelvic rest" due to preg complications : (
>>I've been wondering about you ... haven't seen you in a while. Thought perhaps you were held up in some love nest with a new man in your life ;-)<<
What would you like us to call you? Nikki
Are you male or female? Female
What's your relationship status? In a long term relationship
How's your sex life? At the moment... on hold :-(
Oh, Tammy, if some of the ladies here could figure that out, they would be millionaires -- and have huge smiles on their faces. It's a misconception that guys are always ready to rumble, they have highs and lows in their libidos too.
If his libido is suffering, chances are, it has nothing to do with you or how you look. He could, however, have some medical problems that are contributing to the situation. Things like stress and medication can also be a factor.
Do you know how long it's been since he's had a physical?
Welcome to the board, Kate, and thanks for joining in.
Sorry to hear you're having complications with your pregnancy. How far along are you?
To be honest with you, no, I really dont know alot about his medical history , and , or the last time was that he had a physical. That , along with stress, is probably a big factor, you are right about that. We have had alot going on, with a new house,and dealing with each others kiddos, ect.
But sheesh, whats a woman with needs to do, other than play with her toy?LOL!
GYPSY FOREVER, FOREVER GYPSY!
GYPSY FOREVER, FOREVER GYPSY!
Well, we do all love our toys ;-)
If I was in your shoes, I think I would try to make sure that the two of you have some time to yourselves on a regular basis. Set a date night or two during the week (or breakfast, shower before work -- whatever you can fit in consistently) and stick to it. During that time, don't talk about family or home issues, just enjoy each other's company, and plan on sexual activity being part of the agenda.
That can be a good place to start. He may even realize that just relaxing and spending time with you relieves a good bit of his stress. Of course, that will hopefully make him want to do it more often
If that still doesn't work, I would try to sit and talk with him about what's going on. Let him know that you need sex more often, and give him a chance to reply to that. If he's got a million and one excuses, then try to see which of those can be addressed. Perhaps that conversation will provide you with an opening to suggest he get a physical, just to rule out any possible medical problems. If he'll go for that, he could talk with his doctor about his libido issues.
Thanks for the welcome Misty.
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