Me: stupid, stupid.

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Me: stupid, stupid.
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 1:33pm
Did something really really really stupid this w/e ... please don't judge me or say "you're an idiot" ... just give me your thoughts: I met a guy from on-line and we met. Something really clicked and we had sex in his car not a half hour after meeting (we'd talked quite a bit on the phone). Actually we did a couple of times. BUT: since neither he nor I expected this to happen, we didn't have any condoms. But yes we did have sex and it was awesome and yes he did cum inside me once and in my mouth once. Both were magical. But what do I do now? I guess I will have to get myself checked. Fortunately, he seems like a great guy and I'm sure I will see him again ... certainly we left it on a good note and he called me this AM. Should I insist on condom use next time around, or is it too late for them to do any good? (Obviously I'm just talking about STD protection; I'm set on the b.c. front.) This is quite possibly THE most pathetic situation, for I don't know his last name even. And no, I would never have expected something like this to happen, he's only my fourth lover. Talk about one thing leading to another.

And I have tons of work to do today but this is of course massively distracting me.

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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 1:51pm
Obviously you should

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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 3:34pm
I totally agree with Tish! you should DEFINITELY get tested for everything! and most DEFINITELY insist on condoms...there's no shame in being safe!!

i also would maybe suggest talking with him about it too- so he knows this isn't what you'd normally do- especially if it's wearing on you so hard today!

But don't be ashamed, that doesn't get you anywhere! it wasn't the best choice ever, but it's over and now you can make the right positive choices by taking care of yourself!! and ps- i met my bf online and we've been together for months now!! so you very well could have found a great guy! just be safe!!

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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 4:18pm
gee thanks
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 4:26pm
the scary thing -- and I'm just being honest, certainly not proud of this -- is that i loved it so much it's like my eyes glazed over and i really didn't care at that moment. god help me if i caught something. it was my decision, after all i told him to cum inside me. still, i would say that was definitely the best sex i've ever had the first time with a guy. god we both talked a blue streak and it was so fun. i think i would have passed out if he hadn't reminded me to breathe while sucking him. i frighten myself.
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 4:41pm
Had it been a long time since you had had any sex? Is that why - do you think? I had a girlfriend once who went without sex for 3 years. When she finally found a guy she had chemistry with, she said she practically attacked him and that she couldn't believe the intensity of her actions.