to the men -

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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 7:39am

cont'd from the previous email-to the women -nonsexual touch leading to sex.. the answers that has been give has helped.

Men what do you consider nonsexual touch to be and -I have yet to hear from you and or what is sexual on a woman to you? If you men hare easily stimulated in most cases -and need to take cold showers to lets say to when you can't receive it - wouldn't that be saying you are easily triggured when in one aspect you are... so if you are almost always desiring sex or anything related to it -can you touch and not want sex and if so why etc. ???????It seems to me that if are easily stimulated -any nonsexual touch for you would almost always lead and be sexual except for a nonsexual guy...

Doesn't kissing for you have a taste of sex in it...?

Judith

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In reply to: sjudma
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 12:47am

I will not give info about me on here but privately.

It is NOT interest. IT is NOT about curiousity. Again not sure how to explain it.

Judith

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In reply to: sjudma
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 12:49am

I was informed not to share my personal experiences on the forum and i have said repeatedly i would inform privately and.

To me they dont seem general and the responses i have gotten have not been general... and those of you who have helped i thank you tremendously

Judith

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In reply to: sjudma
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 10:16am

Whomever told you that you should not share private information on a message board is wrong. That is why there are message boards. Because it is ANONYMOUS! You could be the woman living next door to me, and I would never know that. If you're telling your "story" to people in e-mails, then you're sharing information that could harm you. How do you know these people that you're e-mailing aren't some kind of perverts.....and now they know YOUR e-mail address, and can harass you and even stalk you!

There is nothing you can learn about your own situation from people telling you about their situations......because they are not YOU, and their partners are not YOUR partner. I can tell you what kind of touches will arouse my partner, but he's not your partner, and your partner will not react in the same way that my partner does. Over the years I've had several partners, and what I could do with my first partner is very different from what I can do with my current partner.

If you need help with a problem, then you have to explain the problem, and THEN someone who might have had that same problem can offer you suggestions about what you might try to do. Even then, you and your partner are two different individuals than any other human beings. Suggestions and ideas are all that anyone can offer you, and even those might not work for YOU.

There is little or nothing that vague generalizations can do to help you with your problems.

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In reply to: sjudma
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 12:24pm

I am sorry but people on this forum has agree with me not to share my info on this forum and i agree. and i do not do that anyway becuase it is anonymous. I recognize email addresses really well from groups if someone emails me from a group to me privately. Why are you wanting to know why dont you email me privately. I do not like conflict and avoid people who ___. - I see that by you are by continually ask me about things without emailing me privately makes me wonder why you want to know so bad. I have had three people from this group who ask me privately and i have informed them. I can show you what comments have helped. and they have been both personal and general.

Judith

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In reply to: sjudma
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 12:27pm

I do not need a textbook answer. I need a verbal personal response or a personal response that is a general response.

THe general and personal answers have helped.

Textbook answer hurts more to say it briefly.

see other emails for ..

Judith

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In reply to: sjudma
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 12:28pm

I am willing to answer these questions privately.

Judith

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In reply to: sjudma
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 12:29pm

I thank you for your responses.

Judith

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In reply to: sjudma
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 12:31pm

I have been hurt sexually. Let me put it that way..

Judith

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In reply to: sjudma
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 6:41pm
But that makes no sense. No one here can speak for everyone. So, unfortunately, everyone will give very different answers. How is that going to help you?
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In reply to: sjudma
Wed, 05-17-2006 - 6:42pm
Okay. That's helps and explains a lot. Thanks!