Men and Age

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Registered: 01-04-2005
Men and Age
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Thu, 01-06-2005 - 8:08pm
I need some input about older men and sex. I have been recently attracted to a man in his mid 40s. I am in my 30s. A friend told me that men of that age have slower and weaker erections and a lower libido. Is this true? I somewhat picture men of that age to be just as passionate and sexual as younger men. Do they have trouble with age? Do men in their mid 40s experience a slower everything, even sexual interest? Is their ability to be aroused slower?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: ilovemovies
Thu, 01-06-2005 - 8:38pm

Depends on the guy but if they are healthy with no serious illnesses,


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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: ilovemovies
Fri, 01-07-2005 - 12:12am

Beware of "friends" who think they know it all.....when in reality, they haven't got a clue. First of all, a man in his mid forties isn't "older". Second of all, a man in his twenties can have problems. Age has nothing to do with libido or speed or strenghth of erections.

A HEALTHY man can have fast firm erections into his 70's and 80's! My last partner was in his late 60's during our relationship, and he was like a teen ager sexually. Instant and frequent erections...and better than a younger man, he knew how to make them LAST!

There's a man that posts on another board that's in his mid 70's, and he and his wife have sex almost daily, and enjoy every minute of it.

No matter what a man's age, you will NEVER know about his sexual abilities until you're intimate with him, and find out for yourself. Don't listen to other people, find out for yourself.

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Registered: 10-07-2004
In reply to: ilovemovies
Fri, 01-07-2005 - 9:42am

I'm almost 39. They say after a guy is 18, it's all downhill.

All I can say is, it's a lovely ride!

The only change I have really noticed (And might be with experience more that age) is I tend to enjoy foreplay much more, I enjoy longer sessions of sex much more and the little things really make a difference for me.

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Registered: 11-15-2003
In reply to: ilovemovies
Fri, 01-07-2005 - 10:37am

Hi LM,

The women here having given you accurate advice. I am one of those (ahem)...older guys. My wife and I have sex 3 to five times a week. I think the only change that I have experienced over the years have been positive. I am more patient and more knowledgeable about what it takes to satisfy my wife and I savor the little things more (kissing, foreplay, etc. etc.). As far as erections, they are the same as when I was thirty.

Good luck with you OLDER guy (lol).
Peace.
Scott.

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Registered: 10-16-2004
In reply to: ilovemovies
Fri, 01-07-2005 - 10:45am
Hi. My husband is 44, we have sex nearly every day, often more than once a day. It is great. He's ready whenever I'm interested, and he's patient and takes his time when I need more time to get into it mentally and physically. That last part isn't always true with a young guy.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ilovemovies
Fri, 01-07-2005 - 11:33am

My DH will be 50 this month and still has strong erections and the same libido. The one GOOD change I've noticed with his aging is that he enjoys foreplay much more than when he was younger. And that's a great change.

Don't believe generalities when it comes to age or sexual performance because, just as in women at ANY AGE.....health, lifestyle, and general state of mind play a huge role in determining how active and satisfying one's sex life will be.

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Registered: 01-04-2005
In reply to: ilovemovies
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 6:48pm
Thanks for the information and support. Good advice.
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Registered: 06-25-2003
In reply to: ilovemovies
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 8:22pm

I'm 41, but I'm not typical. I actually think a woman who has dated men of various ages would have a good answer.

That said, I'm not slow or weaker. However, I stay in good shape and get plenty of exercise. The guys who should worry are the ones who are in bad health generally. Erectile problems are usually related to health problems, especially diabetes, heart problems and depression medication.

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Registered: 12-20-2004
In reply to: ilovemovies
Tue, 01-11-2005 - 8:55am
ilove, not in my case. Im an athletic ,in shape 50 yr old whos equiptment still works as well as it did in my twenties.I look and think young, and married a woman in her 30`s, no complaints from her......