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men and orgasms
| Tue, 07-20-2004 - 2:42pm |
my boyfriend is always very quiet during sex. the other night he just shivered and quivered during his orgasm. are most men this quiet? does that mean he liked it or what? i'm so confused. he did say "wow" afterwards though. i guess i just want him to enjoy himself.

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We are all different, both men and women...some are quiet, some are loud, some feel comfortable vocalizing some don't. So many of the questions that are asked here boil down to two questions: 1) Am I normal? 2)Is he/she normal? If you read enough posts here you'll discover that there is no such thing as 'normal' and that weird is a weird word. Everyone is who they are...doesn't mean that they may not change. 'Normal' has a vast range, and your boyfriend falls into that catagory. For some reason there are a lot of women that think male sexuality is cookie cutter like. It's not. It's as varied as female sexuality.
It sounds like your boyfriend is quiet when he has sex. No big deal. If you are concerned that he is not having a good time, ask him.
Peace.
Scott.
If he's quiet, then he's quiet, and you can't make him get louder or more vocal. I think a "WOW" says a lot, and let's face it, if he wasn't enjoying it, he wouldn't be coming back for more! It can even be an advantage! You can have sex when people are in the next room, and they'll never KNOW, lol
Don't try to make him what he's not.....just love and enjoy him the way he is.
My wife is the exact same way too. More times than not, its those quiet multiple shivering orgasms before that final loud bang of a climax when we're finishing up. I think its perfectly normal either way for everyone. Besides, if your boyfriend ejaculated, whew, then I'd bet he's pretty happy alright, LOL!
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BUT over the months- he's started getting a little more vocal (one time i'm SURE my landlord must have thought i was beating him up!!), he's still quiet a lot too- i honestly think it has a lot to do with letting go and being comfortable around each other...the sex just keeps getting better between us know that we've been together a little while...
but like everyone's said...everyone's totally different, and while it took some getting used to, there's nothing strange about it...
Jim
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