Men and penis size

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Men and penis size
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Sun, 07-17-2005 - 4:12pm

Why does penis size come up so much relative to all other things men could be concerned about? I mean what about things like height, baldness, body type, etc.?

My current lover, who is older, has a very large penis and is tall, but he is bald and although by no means fat could be in a bit better shape. My last bf was short and had a small penis but had beatiful hair and was totally fit. Both of them are perfectly confident, not cocky but just not insecure, guys who were totally realistic about their assets and shortcomings.

I mean I just want to remind the guys here that even though we girls sometimes marvel at the idea of large penises and it sounds like we're overly fascinated with them, there are infinitely, infinitely more important things out there. I know the guys here have gone off the deep end when I see the posts about "how to tell before you talk to her that a woman prefers a big penis." That's lunacy and you guys are torturing yourselves for absolutely no reason.

It was my grandma's theory that everyone was handed an equal set of assets and liabilities. And I think that's true to a surprising extent. The worst thing is comparing yourself to others (e.g. often times in these threads guys are aghast to learn that they are below average in size). It's like, I'm cute and in pretty good shape and I do fine with guys, but my roommate is truly gorgeous and gets ten times the attention from men that I do. Am I jealous? Do I feel sorry for myself? Not at all! It just builds character.

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Registered: 08-14-2004
Tue, 07-19-2005 - 3:49am
Just to add
Many women if not most woman, can have very satisfying (GREAT) sex w/o a larger penis. I never mentioned that becuase I was trying to prove a point of what men think about then they are overly concerned w/ their penis.
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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 11:50am

Hey, I'm a "real woman" and I don't care about size.

I believe if the sum of a guy's parts are what initially attracts a woman, then it's what's inside that will keep her.

A man with a larger penis isn't any better off than a shorter guy....in the long run. It's all relative.




Edited 7/19/2005 11:52 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 2:19pm
well i agree with another poster..... its not just the younger generation that think that i have seen many older females poster say the same. I have even seen some encourge some of the younger posters to try a large one and see whats better ROFL
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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 3:53pm

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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 5:14pm

i know you dont katmandoo2001. I saw your posts. You were one of the only ones who had that opinion, along w/ tish. I am sure you remember the thread.

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlletstalkab&msg=17157.1

You were in the minority. I dont think women are shallow for their views unless they are making fun of men and trying to tear them down in a joking manner or if they are serious size queens. I am just stating why men think about it. Read all 107 replies on the last thread, and it will speak for itself.

I even know some women who have sex w/ the guy almost immediately to make sure that sex not only goes well, but his size is at least up to a certain standard. It is what it is.

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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 5:22pm

~well i agree with another poster..... its not just the younger generation that think that i have seen many older females poster say the same. I have even seen some encourge some of the younger posters to try a large one and see whats better ROFL~

I want to generate proof, but I dont want to surf through this entire site, but I saw at least 5 posters of married women. They said that they "enjoyed" sex w/ their husbands for the most part, but for emotional reasons they got a divorce. Then after divorce, they would get w/ a guy much larger. Then they would swear that they had sex much more often and enjoyed it much more than their ex-husband could ever give to them. Maybe it was that she felt free, or maybe the man was better in general, but these divorces sited size specifically. They also sited that they wanted to have sex much more often and were so much more passionate and enthused and energized by the thought of sex. I may try and go through to find these posters. Some women say sex is better because there husband was LL or abusive, but at least 5 that I can think of cited size only.

When you hear stuff like that, you can EASILY see why men think about it.

I agree w/ you that it is older and younger women alike.

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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 5:47pm

Hey, I've never minded being in the minority, trust me, but I still don't think I am.

Yes, I know of women who sleep with guys on the first date, and they have the right to do that if they choose, just as guys do. But it's not necessarily to see if his equipment makes the cut. They may just be horny! LOL!

But no matter what....if the guy has nothing going for him but a big penis, he's still going to lose the girl in the end. And I know of several guys who can attest to THAT, too! One, being my brother.




Edited 7/19/2005 5:49 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 5:58pm

~ast time I checked, I was a *real woman* too. Why is it that it seems like it doesn't matter what the *real women* who don't care about size say but apparently it does matter what the women who do care about size say. ~

Sorry tish, but like I said in one of my replies. You and katmandoo said one thing, and maybe 10-15 of the women who had men w/ bigger size said another.

You are all real women, and I respect and thank all of you for sharing your opinion. To tell you the truth, I think men shouldnt ask women about size because it is just going to make them more slef concious and less attractive overall. Men cannnot change their penis size, so what good is it to hear that women really do care about penis size. It isnt that we dont listen to the women who say size doesnt matter. It is just that we hear the contrary often enough to be concerned w/ it.

Of the women who have had 5-10 partner and have had men who were larger, I think at least 60% (although I have no proof) say size matters to some degree. I mean, have you ever heard that 10 compliments must be said to your partner per one negative comment because negative comments hold more weight. Well, when what seems like 60% of experienced women (multiple partners) say size matters, that is more than enough to get men thinking.

I must confess though, if you havent noticed, I am one of those guys who is somewhat concerned w/ his penis size. I had and still have problems maintaining an erection, and thus I started focusing on my penis more. After that I noticed that my SO didnt really like having sex all that much and doesnt really orgasm ever. She says that she cant feel much when I am inside. She says its not my size and that I am a good lover and that it isnt me, and I really do believe her, but when you also read girls say "I used to think sex was pretty good, until I had my first Multi, or until I had a bigger guy, then I thought sex was spectacular". Or when girls say "I used to think that penetration wasnt that good for any woman and that clitoral stimulation is better, until I had a bigger guy, then penetration was great". Of course you dont need a big penis to give a girl a multi through penetration, and there is more to sex than penetration, and I know a woman has to be responsible for her ability to orgasm, but, it still makes men think sometimes.

Anyhow, babble babble babble.

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Tue, 07-19-2005 - 6:10pm

~Yes, I know of women who sleep with guys on the first date, and they have the right to do that if they choose, just as guys do. But it's not necessarily to see if his equipment makes the cut. They may just be horny! LOL!~

I think women should sleep w/ men whenenver they feel the moment, even if the moment is in the first 5 minutes. I think that it is uncommon for a woman tp sleep w/ a man to make sure he is adequate, but it does happen. I am just citing thing after thing to demonstrate why men think about it.

If you go to the link I gave you, you and tish were the only ones who said you didnt care about size at all. There were 2 other women as well. There were many women who said that size matters. As far as that post goes, and other posts goes, I think at least 50% of the women who have had men of all sizes do think it matters to some degree. Of course, I could be wrong. You arent in the minority, but niether are the women who think size matters.

~But no matter what....if the guy has nothing going for him but a big penis, he's still going to lose the girl in the end. And I know of several guys who can attest to THAT, too! One, being my brother.~

Well of course if you are a walking dick (literally and fugartively), you will lose the girl. I dont care about them. I dont care that some girls like bad boys, that some girls like tall guys w/ no personality. I dont care about that at all. What I would care about is that I cant give her equal "orgasmic" pleasure as her previous boyfriends. Our sex could be more emotional and spiritual, but I think men think about size because they want to give thier SO as much pleasure as possible, physically, emotionally, creatively, and spiritually.

You can learn to be a better lover, you can become more attracted to your spouse by being more attracted to the inner beauty, you can even learn to be a better husband and father, you can learn to give a good massage, you can learn to be more romantic, but you cant grow a larger penis.

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Registered: 01-06-2004
Tue, 07-19-2005 - 6:16pm

thats because usally the ones that do care about size out number the ones thats don't thats why they focus more on them.

btw it was i_christy_la that i was talking about before

Edited 7/19/2005 6:18 pm ET ET by dr_blar




Edited 7/19/2005 6:18 pm ET ET by dr_blar

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