Men and penis size
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| Sun, 07-17-2005 - 4:12pm |
Why does penis size come up so much relative to all other things men could be concerned about? I mean what about things like height, baldness, body type, etc.?
My current lover, who is older, has a very large penis and is tall, but he is bald and although by no means fat could be in a bit better shape. My last bf was short and had a small penis but had beatiful hair and was totally fit. Both of them are perfectly confident, not cocky but just not insecure, guys who were totally realistic about their assets and shortcomings.
I mean I just want to remind the guys here that even though we girls sometimes marvel at the idea of large penises and it sounds like we're overly fascinated with them, there are infinitely, infinitely more important things out there. I know the guys here have gone off the deep end when I see the posts about "how to tell before you talk to her that a woman prefers a big penis." That's lunacy and you guys are torturing yourselves for absolutely no reason.
It was my grandma's theory that everyone was handed an equal set of assets and liabilities. And I think that's true to a surprising extent. The worst thing is comparing yourself to others (e.g. often times in these threads guys are aghast to learn that they are below average in size). It's like, I'm cute and in pretty good shape and I do fine with guys, but my roommate is truly gorgeous and gets ten times the attention from men that I do. Am I jealous? Do I feel sorry for myself? Not at all! It just builds character.

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Okay, I remember her now.
Wow, curiousgeroge
You sure are obsessed about this issue. You seem to think that many, many women seem to prefer bigger and have much better sex with large guys. Actually, I think that most women tend to agree with Kat and Tish. In particular, I tend to read threads that have to do with women having multiple orgasms or orgasms from IC and I almost never hear anything about the man's size being a significant issue. I remember one poster here who was always talking about how many orgasms she had and how large her DH was. She got some criticism for this and in later posts mentioned that (a) she had had just as many orgasms with average men in the past and (b) her DH's large size actually caused a number of problems which she listed in detail.
I can give a counterexample from my experience. DW had 24 partners before me. She says one was "very large", two were "large" , one was "tiny" (finger-sized). The other 21 were "average" (including me). She says size did matter because the three large guys were uncomfortable and she couldn't feel the tiny one. But for the average-sized guys size didn't matter at all. One of the large guys was DW's second husband(10 years). Sex was uncomfortable with him and she never orgasmed. In the beginning, she didn't orgasm from IC with me, but over time she started orgasming and they got more frequent and better. Now she has multiples every time we have intercourse. What happened? Did I suddenly grow bigger? No! Something else( actually it was several things) besides penis size is the reason why she enjoys sex now so much and orgasms so much.
taoist
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Hi Tish: (I am probably going to get my tail feathers burnt on the following statdement; but here goes...)
Maybe, the woman who wants a MORE/BIGGER penis has had TOO MUCH SEXUAL EXPERIENCE ALREADY. My wife has ONLY known my 4 inch penis. She seems happy...
Mac
Hey Mac, you never know.
Curious George - what exactly are we talking about here?
Are you saying that the women you refer to prefer men that are at least average or are you referring to women who prefer men that are signficantly above average only?
The reason I ask is because I do think that at least on paper, if a woman is not attached when she pictures her ideal partner, she envisions a man that is at least average.
Actually, 'most' guys are of 'average' size, by definition.
Really, it's very silly of men to worry about something they have absolutely no control over.
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