men and sex after ejaculation

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Registered: 04-10-2003
men and sex after ejaculation
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Fri, 04-22-2005 - 10:50am
is it uncomfortable for a man to continue making love after ejaculation? My husband has been doing it lately. i wonder if it is bc i am high libido and he is relatively low and he is trying to satisfy me. he is excellent in bed and we are open to toys so he shouldn't feel pressured to keep going if I haven't reached orgasm. he can reach for the vibrator. on the same note if i perform fellatio to orgasm can he still perform??

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Fri, 04-22-2005 - 11:17am

It depends on the man! Obviously, it's not uncomfortable for your husband.....or he wouldn't be doing it! Some men can't because they lose their erection right away, others maintain their erection for a while.....others can keep their erection, and eventually ejaculate again.

The same goes for oral sex. If a man is "done" when he ejaculates during intercourse, then he's usually done when he ejaculates during oral sex.

Why don't you just ask him what's going on? If you're married, surely you can talk about it! Maybe he's doing it for you, maybe he's doing it because he enjoys it. Only he knows why he's suddenly changed his "routine".

Every man is different, and every man "changes" from time to time. Communicate with him...he's the only one with the answers for your questions.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-22-2005 - 11:22am

Uncomfortable? Not likely but for many, it's impossible since their erection goes away as soon as they ejaculate. My DH's penis gets very sensitive right after orgasm and he needs time to recuperate.

But some men keep their erections and are able to continue after orgasm. Why not ask him if he wants to continue with any other activity?

Have you considered going for one orgasm for yourself, during foreplay, so that he won't feel pressured to last longer than he's able during intercourse?

I'm sure your DH would tell you if he was uncomfortable though.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 04-22-2005 - 12:48pm

It all depends on the man.


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Registered: 04-22-2005
Fri, 04-22-2005 - 3:03pm
with my man he can cum and keep going. ive heard of many men that are able to do this and it doesnt bother them. others it hurts if you keep going. youre lucky to have a guy that wants to please you.
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Registered: 12-21-2004
Fri, 04-22-2005 - 4:40pm
For my bf it just depends. Sometimes he can keep going afterwards and other times it's just to sensitive for him to keep going. And sometimes he will go soft pretty quickly afterwards and other times he is still really hard so we get to keep having fun.
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Registered: 01-11-2004
Sat, 04-23-2005 - 4:56pm

Hi cftaylor:


Using the search function, type in "male refractory period or sexual refractory period."

 

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Registered: 04-21-2004
Sat, 04-23-2005 - 9:23pm

is it uncomfortable for a man to continue making love after ejaculation?


It depends. There's usually a period of between 30 seconds and 15-30 minutes when the penis is so sensitive that almost ANY stimulation is simply to much to take.


But not always.

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Registered: 04-26-2005
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 12:56pm
There's a reason for the hormone which puts men to sleep. As a stage of evolution, early humans were not unlike animals in that the basic drives were the same. That is eat, sleep, and continue the race. To ensure pregnancy during that short time each month, women would have sex with multiple men. By making men fall asleep after sex, nature gave the women time to "go again" with another male without worrying about them fighting each other over dominance. I'm not an expert on this, I just remember it from a sociology class I took a long time ago. On a lighter note (not really) the Preying Mantis female tears the head of the male before they mate!
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Registered: 04-17-2003
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 2:13pm
Hello,being a man I will tell you how I feel about sex after and before ejaculation...I try to always have as much foreplay as I possibly can.I love to play with my wife and get her to the point that she just has to have me inside her...She has multiple orgasms most of the time...After she has cum once then I will enter her and get her up again in what ever manner it takes...I have pretty good control after 22yrs,and know where she is at in her orgasm...I try so very hard to get us to cum together...I think there is nothing better in this world or more intimate than having two human beings cum together in such a beautiful act...If you have never cum at the same time as your partner then you are missing alot...After we are both drained I love to hold her and fondle her still but getting off is not my goal now....To do all this you must have alot of time...I hate to be hurried when we have sex...I love to have sex right before we go to bed then after words we can fall to sleep holding each other....I will usually get aroused again sometime during the night and slip inside her while she is still asleep...I have came inside her without waking her up before..That is always fun for me,call me selfish...This way when we wake up in the morning she is ready to go again and I can last a very long time after all that...We have alot of fun making love..Thats what Love is all about..Hope that helps...
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Registered: 04-26-2005
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 3:06pm
My 2 cents again.... I wish I could keep going afterwards. But I just go limp, I would need about 30 minutes to get hard again, by that time she has lost interest and/or has fallen asleep (if it's bed time). But I would like to add, I have never came orally either. I get to the point but she changes what she is doing and the sensation leaves. Or she is so hot and bothered by that time and she wants me in her.

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