Men and women think differently.
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| Wed, 12-14-2005 - 7:19am |
There's an ad on TV that I've seen several times recently. It's for a national jewelry store chain. It starts with a woman sitting alone in her home on Christmas Eve. She was phoned by her man to inform her that a major snow storm might prevent him from getting home tonight. She hears the sound of a vehicle, and it turns out to be a snowplow that stops in front of her house. She looks out the window, and the man descends from the plow, having obviously moved heaven and earth to get home to her. They embrace, she looks at him with loving eyes, he gives her a gift of jewelry, and they hug again.
I'll bet most women think: "How romantic." As a guy, I was thinking: "He's going to get laid tonight!" Am I right, or do some of you think differently from what I expect for your gender?

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This is because women have the capacity to correlate emotions. Men have to ability to completely ignore one if it doesn't seem like it would fit with another.
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To answer your question, yes, some of us think different from what is expected of our gender. Not all females are feminine (and not all males are masculine). Fyi, this has little to do with sexual orientation.
Of course they don't define everyone and of course there are many exceptions.
I have had indsciminate sex and have made it as impersonal as possible. At the time, I told myself as well as "what's his name" that I didn't want to get involved this was just a good time.
Looking back, that was my wall. If I could, I would erase every "no-strings" in my past.
Many will disagree but I truly believe that a woman who says that she wants casual sex is a woman who subconsciously doesn't think that she deserves better. Deep down, she wants to be loved but she is claiming otherwise for fear of rejection. Likewise, a man who prefers one night stands is one who unknowingly fears that he doesn't have enough to offer long-term.
During my marriage sex was a huge disagreement. His view was that if we had sex, he would be nice, mine was that if he was nice, we would have sex. How romantic!!!
>>> Your Dh and my Dh must have gone to the same *cure for all* medical school.
Now Tish .... there are many valid medical reasons to have sex. I have read that the physical act itself releases chemicals within the brain that relieve pain, improve mood, and several other things. Also I remember reading that sperm/ejaculate has certain antiseptic properties (so does saliva). It also is good for the skin, and in women with some pregnancy related autoimmune disorders, oral sex and swallowing may rid them of thos disrders .... I am not lying about this ... Trust me .....
CH
PS. Now I am going to duck
Doctor CH, you went to that medical school too???
I have never had casual sex. Sex is the most intimate physical act possible between two people, so I agree that many women who do have indiscriminate sex, are denying what they truly want and deserve. But not all need or want love to have sex.
Some women do not want a relationship, for whatever reason, and a no-strings arrangement is just convenient, for the moment. But, I think men are basically the same in that regard, too.
I think it's an innate need for human beings to feel loved and important to someone, even without sex, and eventually, that need takes over the desire for variety and excitement of the chase.
Edited 12/16/2005 11:24 am ET by katmandoo2001
jenny, I agree with your comments,"Many will disagree but I truly believe that a woman who says that she wants casual sex is a woman who subconsciously doesn't think that she deserves better. Deep down, she wants to be loved but she is claiming otherwise for fear of rejection. Likewise, a man who prefers one night stands is one who unknowingly fears that he doesn't have enough to offer long-term".
Kat made some good points also, about some people ,for whatever reason, dont want or cant have a relationship presently.Still I see it as no reason to sleep around (a lot).
My thoughts are that in many cases (not all) people who engage in lots of sexual partners are masking deeper concerns(baggage)...Could be a fear of rejection, fear of commitment,lack of self esteem (needing a constant ego boost).etc. Most will claim its because they love sex, which may be true in a few cases, but I think the majority of people who sleep around, do so for reasons other than just getting laid.
I think you know my answer to that Hump.
I haven't seen that commercial yet but
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