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| Wed, 12-14-2005 - 7:19am |
There's an ad on TV that I've seen several times recently. It's for a national jewelry store chain. It starts with a woman sitting alone in her home on Christmas Eve. She was phoned by her man to inform her that a major snow storm might prevent him from getting home tonight. She hears the sound of a vehicle, and it turns out to be a snowplow that stops in front of her house. She looks out the window, and the man descends from the plow, having obviously moved heaven and earth to get home to her. They embrace, she looks at him with loving eyes, he gives her a gift of jewelry, and they hug again.
I'll bet most women think: "How romantic." As a guy, I was thinking: "He's going to get laid tonight!" Am I right, or do some of you think differently from what I expect for your gender?

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Another thing is that men are a little more apt to forgive and forget. Men can argue with each other, f you to each other, then the next thing they are out having a beer together..Women seem to harbor resentment a little longer, typically.
Ofcourse not everyone fits THAT stereo type.
also just the fact that men can separate emotions from sex makes them a little more sexual by nature..Dont get me wrong, I feel really close to my wife when we have sex,but I do tend to think men will/can have sex, as a rule, more for sex sake than for the emotional connection. ( i know there are women who want sex just for sex sake, but Im thinking that they are the exception to the norm)
Hump...I'm sorry, but I don't buy it. I was with a few men before I met my husband and I matched their libidos and then some--same with my husband. And these were young men(supposedly in their prime). My hormones may fluctuate, but they only fluctuate during ovulation. And I know I'm ovulating when I get even hornier than I am normally. It's just not been my experience that men are MORE sexual than me.
I also have NEVER had a fight with any one of my friends. It irks me when people stereotype women as unforgiving, and emotional wrecks. If I have a problem with someone, I just discuss it, and we get past it.
As far as sex for sex's sake. I had three short-term relationships when I was very young. I wasn't in love with them(although I was open to fall in love), I was merely attracted to them physically and liked them. I had no problem having sex without emotion. I also had a one-night-stand, and I had no issues with it. I didn't need emotional closeness to enjoy sex. I think that's a wives-tale that's perpetuated by women and men alike. It started out as an excuse for women not to have sex with a man right away, and I think that men like to think of women as "virginal" and "pure"--that it's just not possible that they can have sex for sex's sake. It's a myth I tell ya. In fact, I have sex for sex's sake all of the time with my husband. tee hee As I said in a previous post....if a woman DOES have an emotional connection, then yes, she's likely to not want to have sex if she's upset with him(and men do it too), but if she DOESN'T have an emotional connection to a man, she can easily have sex for sex's sake. Women do it all of the time. Maybe what you're thinking of is that a woman who has sex, even for sex's sake, CAN become more emotionally attached....but then....isn't that a cliche` being thrown around about men in this very thread? "Men need sex to feel love." You know....I don't believe anything anyone says anymore! I just know what I know...and I'm here to share it.
Yep, Hump, I never met a man who was more sexual than I was....if anything...I outbeat them. ;-)
Edited 12/28/2005 11:10 am ET by rain_dancer_iam
Again are there women with really high libidos? YES! but not in the same numbers as there are men with high libidos...every study that has ever been done says the same thing..men as a rule have higher libidos..of course there are exceptions and you are one of them.
I have a high libido wife now and life is GRAND..lol
There's only once in my life that I have had a low libido. And that was due to a hormonal birth control that didn't agree with me. As for my ex not getting much action outside of that time frame, it was due to his performance being so disappointing that I lost interest. It didn't matter what I tried to do to help improve things, how much effort I put into my own performance, he wasn't interested in helping himself, and thought it was easier to blame me for his performance. In fact, he used to complain about so many things in his life that it was emotionally exhausting. No wonder he wasn't getting any and I was sorting myself out during the day when he wasn't home.
Now I'm with someone that has a high sex drive, just as I do, and he satisfies me as much as I satisfy him, and we can't get enough of each other. And he is easy-going and fun, much like I am. The one time I've turned my partner down, he instantly asked me if anything was wrong because it wasn't like me to turn down sex lol.
"If I saw the commercial in reverse and the woman gave the man a watch, I'd think the same exact thing--how romantic."
Well, then you're really cool!
"anyone who has any drive, would fall under the category of "sexual", right?"
Yeah, but people that are less asexual are more sexual.
"I'm sorry, but I don't buy it. I was with a few men before I met my husband and I matched their libidos and then some--same with my husband...It irks me when people stereotype women as unforgiving, and emotional wrecks. If I have a problem with someone, I just discuss it, and we get past it."
None of this really matters. You're only one woman. I'm sure you are the way you say, but the general statements that are being made refer to the tendencies of millions of women. Not every single one including you!
So, what you're saying is, generally speaking of course, is that women are asexual or something close to it? Biologically speaking right? That women just aren't sexual?
I'm not arguing that there are not a lot of women who are disinterested in sex, I'm arguing that women are TRULY SEXUAL BEINGS and that her libido is MAINLY tied to her psyche(not the physical).
I found this article on viagra which outlines what I've been trying to say:
http://health.discovery.com/centers/womens/viagra/viagra.html
Two years after Viagra stormed the market and revived erections for millions of men, many women are asking whether there is a Viagra-like solution for them, too.
The short answer is no — at least not yet. But that could change within the next two or three years as drug companies and researchers race to develop a libido enhancer for a very large — and underserved — market.
Just how large? Some 43 percent of women suffer with sexual dysfunction, compared to 31 percent of men, according to University of Chicago researcher Dr. Edward Laumann. And some $2 to $3 billion will be spent within the next ten years on products aimed at improving the sex lives of these women.
The Drivers of Female Sexual Dysfunction
Female sexual dysfunction is characterized by a lack of desire, arousal and orgasm. Lack of desire is the chief complaint among women, affecting about one-third of them at some point in their lives, says Cindy Meston, assistant professor of clinical psychology at the University of Texas at Austin.
The Cause?
A woman's lack of sexual interest is often tied to her relationship with her partner, says Sandra Lieblum, director for sexual and marital health at the UMDNJ Robert Wood Johnson Medical School in Piscataway, N.J. "The important sex organ is between the ears. Men need a place for having sex — women need a purpose," she says. But it can also be triggered by family concerns, illness or death, financial or job worries, childcare responsibilities, managing a career and children, previous or current physical and emotional abuse, fatigue and depression.
Indeed, female sexual dysfunction seems to be psychologically — rather than physically — rooted. "What the genitals are doing may play a less important role in how a woman defines her sexual arousal," says Meston. "I don't think there will ever be an aphrodisiac that will make want to have sex all the time."
That's not to say its causes aren't physical, Lieblum says. Hypertension, heart disease, cancer, diabetes, thyroid disorders, neurological diseases and autoimmune disorders like lupus can all contribute to a woman's lack of sexual desire. Other factors include prescriptions drugs, particularly anti-hypertensives and depression medication, as well as over-the-counter medications and illegal drugs and alcohol abuse.
Why Not Viagra?
Viagra is designed to increase blood flow to the genitals. Viagra works well for many men who suffer with impotence — or erectile dysfunction — because it's considered a physical — rather than an emotional — problem. That's not to say that Viagra can't "restore function" for women, says Dr. Myron Murdoch, clinical instructor of urology at George Washington Medical School. It can, but it's not for all women.
While Viagra-like drugs may help the 20 percent of women reported to have difficulties with lubrication (blood flow to the female genitals increase lubrication), it's unknown to what degree such drugs would help the 43 percent of women with sexual dysfunction who either say they're uninterested in sex or that sex provides little pleasure.
Cure in a Pill?
Even so, drug companies — banking on the success of Viagra — hope to find its female equivalent. At the moment, they are focused on developing a drug that increases blood flow to the female genitals, resulting in vaginal lubrication and relaxing vaginal muscles.
The concept is similar to Viagra, which increases blood flow to the penis, resulting in an erection. So far, there are some promising drugs on the horizon. These include prostaglandin, already approved for men, apomorphine and phentolamine, both of which are being tested for arousal disorder in women.
Whether drug companies succeed, the good news is that women needn't wait for a sex pill. They have options. Research shows that exercise, counseling, vaginal lubrication products and sex videos all can help put spur a woman's libido.
They certainly don't! I've been away for nearly 2 years but it's just like yesterday. Some of the pen-names have changed (previous ones chucked off the board?) but the personalities are still clearly recognisable.
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