Men and women think differently.

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Men and women think differently.
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 7:19am

There's an ad on TV that I've seen several times recently. It's for a national jewelry store chain. It starts with a woman sitting alone in her home on Christmas Eve. She was phoned by her man to inform her that a major snow storm might prevent him from getting home tonight. She hears the sound of a vehicle, and it turns out to be a snowplow that stops in front of her house. She looks out the window, and the man descends from the plow, having obviously moved heaven and earth to get home to her. They embrace, she looks at him with loving eyes, he gives her a gift of jewelry, and they hug again.

I'll bet most women think: "How romantic." As a guy, I was thinking: "He's going to get laid tonight!" Am I right, or do some of you think differently from what I expect for your gender?

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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 10:26am
Yeah, Hump, but the ONLY reason that MORE men's libido's are higher is because their libidos are virtually impervious. Nothing can really affect it. tee hee Whereas womens' libidos are affected by things that even science is unaware of. ;-)
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 1:01pm
Rain, I read that article too and there was one thing about its conclusions that puzzled me. How can you characterized something that is shared by 43% of a population as 'dysfunctional' or 'abnormal'? In a way, it's like saying that since most women are more than 5 feet tall, then women who are less than 5 feet tall are somehow 'dysfunctional' when it comes to height? That would be absurd, wouldn't it? Why can't we just say that for the 43% of women, and 31% of men, who have low sex drives, that that's just how they are and that they shouldn't be made to feel that there's something 'wrong' with them?
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 1:19pm
So true--it's NORMAL for them. ;-) So, approximately 3 out of ten men and 4 out of ten women have low libidos? Very close figures...eh? tee hee
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 3:04pm

"Yeah, Hump, but the ONLY reason that MORE men's libido's are higher is because their libidos are virtually impervious. Nothing can really affect it. tee hee Whereas womens' libidos are affected by things that even science is unaware of."

One person is always up for a game of chess, with anyone, at any time. The other will only play with one partner, only when the mood strikes. Are these people equally into chess?

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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 4:00pm

Well...whether or not the person will only play with one steady partner as opposed to any partner, wouldn't seemingly affect whether or not one person is more into it than the other. If you play fifty games of chess a month, it would still be fifty games whether or not it's with the same person.

As far as only playing when you're in the mood as opposed to anytime, that would depend on what you consider "in the mood" or "anytime". As I already stated, just because I don't think about sex every minute of the day, that doesn't have anything to do with only having sex when I'm in the mood. I'm willing to play at anytime, anyplace, but that doesn't mean that in order to be in the mood that I have to go out and constantly solicit for different partners, obsessively think about it at the detriment of other more important tasks at hand, and have to keep myself in a state of constant arousal in order to want and desire sex. I guess what I'm saying is that the mood is ALWAYS present....there....right below....well...life. I simply don't think that someone who obsesses about sex is necessarily more "sexual" than someone who doesn't. I wouldn't consider a person who spends all day looking at porn, masturbating six times a day, having sex with three different partners a day, everyday, to be MORE sexual than say a person who goes about everyday life so doesn't think about sex all of the time, and who has sex with their same partner on average of once a day, everyday. I simply see the latter as equal to the former.

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 4:46pm

"I wouldn't consider a person who spends all day looking at porn, masturbating six times a day, having sex with three different partners a day, everyday, to be MORE sexual than say a person who goes about everyday life so doesn't think about sex all of the time, and who has sex with their same partner on average of once a day, everyday. I simply see the latter as equal to the former."

An asexual person never thinks about sex and is not sexual, but the moment someone experiences a little drive, they are propelled into equality with those who are completely obsessed with sex? Someone who smokes only when they drink, or has a few cigarettes a year is just as much of a smoker as a chain smoker who goes through two packs a day? Please. This is simply ridiculous and I can't believe you would apply the same logic to any other interest or activity besides sex. You're stretching!

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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 5:18pm

I never compared an asexual person to a sexual person. What I'm comparing is a sexual person to another sexual person. Let's look at it this way....is a person who smokes two packs of cigarettes a day really any different than someone who smokes one pack a day? They're both heavy smokers. To me, even a person who practices vanilla sex is no less sexual than a person who practices kinky sex. A couple that is happy with sex once or twice a week, is no less sexual than one that has it once a day. A person who is obsessed with sex is no different than one who isn't. Both are sexual--just different. If someone plays chess twenty times a day, it doesn't mean that the person who plays it twice a day is "not into it." I'd say that a person who plays twice a day is very into it. Get it now? ;-)




Edited 12/29/2005 5:22 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 5:36pm

"If someone plays chess twenty times a day, it doesn't mean that the person who plays it twice a day is "not into it." I'd say that a person who plays twice a day is very into it. Get it now?"

You're shifting things around. Nobody claimed that women were asexual! Just that they were less sexual.

Can we say that the occasional chess player is less into chess than the chess fiend? The occasional smoker is less into smoking than the chain smoker? That women are less sexual than men? And that you are a notable exception??

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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 5:52pm
Well....no....I can't. A good example. There's a poster around these parts who is up there in age and whose libido doesn't EVER kick in when she's not active with a partner. She even went 12 years without any sex of any sort. She claims that she just doesn't think about sex when she's not with a partner....and yet, I consider her a VERY sexual person. She's multi-orgasmic, very experimental, likes porn, etc....but all only when she's with someone. I'd say she's just as sexual as any person whose obsessed, maybe more so. tee hee
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 6:15pm

"but all only when she's with someone"

Wouldn't she be even more sexual if she were continuously sexual?

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