Men and women think differently.

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Men and women think differently.
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 7:19am

There's an ad on TV that I've seen several times recently. It's for a national jewelry store chain. It starts with a woman sitting alone in her home on Christmas Eve. She was phoned by her man to inform her that a major snow storm might prevent him from getting home tonight. She hears the sound of a vehicle, and it turns out to be a snowplow that stops in front of her house. She looks out the window, and the man descends from the plow, having obviously moved heaven and earth to get home to her. They embrace, she looks at him with loving eyes, he gives her a gift of jewelry, and they hug again.

I'll bet most women think: "How romantic." As a guy, I was thinking: "He's going to get laid tonight!" Am I right, or do some of you think differently from what I expect for your gender?

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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 6:44pm
Nope, I don't think she can be any more sexual. She can have sex more, but that doesn't make her anymore sexual than she already is. Again, is frequency what determines sexuality? How about context? Is a hooker more sexual than the average woman who is with the same partner and has sex once a day or even once a week?
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 6:58pm
How sexual was she during those 12 years that she wasn't getting any?
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 7:14pm
She's was still the same person....the same sexual person--she was just on hold. Just like I may be during the day....on hold! tee hee
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 7:31pm
What if she had been sexual for only 3 weeks and then been on hold the rest of her life? She still would have been just as sexual as...you?
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 7:41pm
Yep. I consider her just as sexual as me, no matter how often...or not....she has sex.
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 7:49pm

What if she only experiences a few weeks of sexuality her whole life long? And the rest of the time she's dormant, waiting for the right guy. She's just as sexual as you?

Don't you see how absurd this is?

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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 8:05pm
But...this woman that I used as an example did continue on to have sex with others, which is why I thought of her, but if she didn't ever meet anyone and never had sex until she died, I'd still categorize her as a sexual a person as me....yes. If you're asking me if I would consider a woman who was 22, fell in love, had passionate sex with a man for three weeks and then he died, and she never had sex again because she never fell in love again as sexual as me, then I'd have to say...yes. But we're getting too way off course here. The orginal thought behind this was that a man is more sexual than a woman because he may think about sex more often...I just don't see it that way. I'm not any less sexual than a person who thinks about sex more often then I do.
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 8:24pm

"If you're asking me if I would consider a woman who was 22, fell in love, had passionate sex with a man for three weeks and then he died, and she never had sex again because she never fell in love again as sexual as me, then I'd have to say...yes."

Well, at least you're consistent. Mind you, we're talking about someone who really doesn't think of sex unless they're having it -- I thought that's what you said about your friend. So a woman who spends 50 years not thinking about sex (being asexual all that time!) is JUST as sexual as you who enjoys a healthy sex life.

You've stripped the word "sexual" of any reference to reality, yet reality goes rolling right along, unconcerned: women are "just as sexual" as men, even though they think of it less, have fewer and/or weaker urges, are less likely to consent, and can endure dry spells more happily. I guess we'll have to invent a new word to describe the amount of time and energy someone spends thinking about and doing sex, and let you keep the meaningless word "sexual" for you to chew on.

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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 8:36pm

You're missing my whole point. What you're doing is grouping the two together. People who are sexual and people who are not sexual. There are people who just don't like sex, they have hang-ups about it, were maybe abused, or for some unknown reason, they just don't like it. They couldn't care less about their partners, they couldn't care less about their own bodies, they couldn't care less if they ever had sex again. Those people are NOT sexual. But someone who is all into sex, experiments, wants to please their partner, and just absolutely loves it IS sexual....no matter how often they think about it or even have it. You see the difference? So when I think of someone as being sexual, that's what I'm referring to.




Edited 12/30/2005 1:08 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 8:42pm

"What you're doing is grouping the two together. People who are sexual and people who are not sexual."

That is exactly what I am not doing! I'm saying that among people who are sexual (not asexual), some are more sexual than others!

But you are totally claiming that once a person is sexual, they are just as sexual as anyone who is sexual. Meaning that there are only two types of people, the asexual and the sexual. You refuse to admit any differences in sexualness among sexual people.

Did you really forget who was arguing which position, or are you just having a bit of fun?

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