Men and women think differently.

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Men and women think differently.
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 7:19am

There's an ad on TV that I've seen several times recently. It's for a national jewelry store chain. It starts with a woman sitting alone in her home on Christmas Eve. She was phoned by her man to inform her that a major snow storm might prevent him from getting home tonight. She hears the sound of a vehicle, and it turns out to be a snowplow that stops in front of her house. She looks out the window, and the man descends from the plow, having obviously moved heaven and earth to get home to her. They embrace, she looks at him with loving eyes, he gives her a gift of jewelry, and they hug again.

I'll bet most women think: "How romantic." As a guy, I was thinking: "He's going to get laid tonight!" Am I right, or do some of you think differently from what I expect for your gender?

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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 9:07pm

But you are grouping them together. You're trying to tell me that a person who is fully into sex(when they have it) is NOT sexual(you even classified them as asexual) simply because they're well....not having it or thinking about it.

You also contend that if a man thinks about sex and wants it all day long, that he's more sexual than a woman who doesn't think about it all day, but who also wants it. You're also saying that just because a man would seek casual sex with varied partners and a woman wouldn't, he's more sexual(even if a woman had sex with the same man the same amount of times). What are some of the other ways that men are more sexual than women? They masturbate more?....hogwash. Women probably masturbate more and they may even orgasm more in each session(longer sessions).

Just because a woman is different and expresses her sexuality differently, doesn't mean that she's less sexual. You keep insisting that men have higher libidos than women and I am saying that it's not true. We went over the ways that it may appear a woman's libido is low, but in fact it's not.

...oh yes, fun. ;-)




Edited 12/29/2005 9:57 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Fri, 12-30-2005 - 6:59am
I'm reading a book (1215: The Year Of Magna Carta) that looks at everyday life in 1215 in England. The sexual mores of the time are discussed, and the authors state that at that time women were thought to have the higher sex drive. Men were considered more romantic, discriminating, etc. I find it interesting how different eras can have quite opposite views of the same subject. Are many of the "good girl" attitudes that we face now (but that are changing rapidly) are just remnants of the Victorian age?
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Fri, 12-30-2005 - 9:08am
akwe, you said it all when you typed.....You've stripped the word "sexual" of any reference to reality, yet reality goes rolling right along, unconcerned: women are "just as sexual" as men, even though they think of it less, have fewer and/or weaker urges, are less likely to consent, and can endure dry spells more happily. I guess we'll have to invent a new word to describe the amount of time and energy someone spends thinking about and doing sex, and let you keep the meaningless word "sexual" for you to chew on.
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The trem "sexual" is defined by Webster as: : having or involving sex. It only makes sense that a person who wants and has sex 2 times a week is not as sexual as a person who wants and has sex 7 times a week ..The amount of sexual partners is immaterial. They are both sexual, just one is not AS sexual as the other...
Back to the artical talking about women being 43% disfunctional and men 31%.
That discribes most men who WANT sex but cant have it.(lack of erection, not lack of desire) Their libido , for the most part , is intact. The women on the other hand CAN have sex but lack the desire to do so.The disfunction is totally different. Its lack of function VS. lack of desire.
Of the people left who do have desire for sex, one would have to be pretty naive to think that the whole population of women wants to have sex as much as the whole
population of men. There are women who want it more than men , but again it is the exception. Women like Rain and Tish are a mans dream woman.
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Fri, 12-30-2005 - 10:27am

You see, Hump, I only include those people who are actually SEXUAL or have the characteristics of a sexual person in my definition of sexual. In other words, Hump...a woman could have sex like you said 7 times a week, but that doesn't automatically make her a MORE sexual person than a woman who has sex twice a week. What if the woman who has it 7 times a week is not into it at all? What if she really dislikes sex? Whereas the woman who is having it twice a week is not only into it, but she's great at it and loves it...she and her man just happen to only need it twice a week. I don't SEE the first woman as being more SEXUAL than the second. Just because a person has sex more times, that DOESN'T QUALIFY THEM AS MORE SEXUAL....at least not in my book.

The same with men and women's sexuality--they're different, and they will express their libidos differently. For instance, it was brought out in this thread that men are more sexual because they look at porn. I simply stated that that's not true because women use and prefer their own imaginations. They're both fantasy so they're both equal, but it would APPEAR that women aren't into fantasy because there's no tangible proof like there is for men(porn).

I hope I explained myself better. Just because someone is involved in sex, that doesn't automatically make them a more sexual person than someone less involved...not by way of characteristics anyway. ;-)




Edited 12/30/2005 10:32 am ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Fri, 12-30-2005 - 1:40pm
Welcome back, Puss! Did you get a new computer for Christmas?
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Fri, 12-30-2005 - 5:51pm

"What if the woman who has it 7 times a week is not into it at all? What if she really dislikes sex? Whereas the woman who is having it twice a week is not only into it, but she's great at it and loves it...she and her man just happen to only need it twice a week. I don't SEE the first woman as being more SEXUAL than the second. "

The problem, though, is that you refuse to see the second one as being more sexual than the first! (According to you, as soon as one experiences the tiniest glimmer of sexual feeling, they are sexual, and indistinguishable from anyone else that is sexual. The rest of us can distinguish between levels of sexuality, but you can't.)

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Fri, 12-30-2005 - 6:32pm
Couldn't disagree more with those stereotypes, Hump. My DH doesn't fit any of them and neither do I.
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Fri, 12-30-2005 - 6:54pm

Well...what I was trying to show is that what I consider to be a sexual person has nothing to do with how much sex they actually have. And no, I do see the distinction between non-sexual and sexual. Of course, what I consider a sexual person will be more sexual than what I consider a non-sexual person to be. Not really that confusing. ;-)




Edited 12/30/2005 8:19 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Fri, 12-30-2005 - 7:09pm

"Well...what I was trying to show is that what I consider to be a sexual person has nothing to do with how much sex they actual have. And no, I do see the distinction between non-sexual and sexual. Of course, what I consider a sexual person will be more sexual than what I consider a non-sexual person to be. Not really that confusing. ;-)"

You're forgetting who said what again. I never said you didn't see the distinction between sexual and non-sexual. I said you don't see the distinction between less sexual and more sexual.

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Fri, 12-30-2005 - 7:16pm
As I already set forth, there's really little distinction because sexuality is just so....hmmmm...(searching for a word)....big! tee hee No...but anyway...I feel the way I feel. You don't have to agree with me. ;-)
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