Men and women think differently.
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| Wed, 12-14-2005 - 7:19am |
There's an ad on TV that I've seen several times recently. It's for a national jewelry store chain. It starts with a woman sitting alone in her home on Christmas Eve. She was phoned by her man to inform her that a major snow storm might prevent him from getting home tonight. She hears the sound of a vehicle, and it turns out to be a snowplow that stops in front of her house. She looks out the window, and the man descends from the plow, having obviously moved heaven and earth to get home to her. They embrace, she looks at him with loving eyes, he gives her a gift of jewelry, and they hug again.
I'll bet most women think: "How romantic." As a guy, I was thinking: "He's going to get laid tonight!" Am I right, or do some of you think differently from what I expect for your gender?

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Edited 12/31/2005 6:24 pm ET by katmandoo2001
"All I'm asking you to remember is that you don't personally know every woman on the planet, so therefore, you can't speak in such generalizations."
I think you might be unclear on what a generalization is. They refer to most of a type, not all of a type.
"Good girl attitudes?" What planet are you living on, Man? LOL! Today, girls are screwing around as indiscriminately as the guys! Not that that's a GOOD thing, mind you! I don't think mimicking the bad behavior of the opposite sex makes one more liberated at all.
Remember though, the option to screw around mindlessly wasn't always possible, without some pretty serious potential consequences, until the Pill gave women the same sexual freedom as men.
But men have always feared that women were truly the more sexual gender. That's why they've always attempted to control female sexuality thoughout history.
In Rice's case, he's attempting to paint ALL women as the same, even though he claims he isn't. That's his thing. That's what he does.
And since he doesn't know MOST women, he shouldn't be generalizing, period.
My response was to Rice anyway.
Edited 12/31/2005 6:40 pm ET by katmandoo2001
I simply cannot relate to any of your personal experiences, Rice. I'm sorry that you're dissatisfied with your sex life.
But as I've said before though, maybe you are subconsciously attracted to or are attracting the very women you end up complaining about.
Maybe the "buttoned-up good girl" is what you're initially attracted to but when it comes to sexuality, you want her to be totally opposite in the bedroom and then you're disappointed when she isn't. Possibility?
And neither do you. I believe that you've been just as guilty of making sweeping generalizations about women as I have. As in "... alot of those same seemingly inactive and uninterested women will be masturbating regularly in private. It could be that they aren't getting anything out of sex with their partner so it becomes just another chore to do instead of the pleasure it should be." You've spoken to all of these women and you know this for a fact?
No, but I don't claim to know them all either. I usually say "many" not "all or most." This time I used "a lot" which I believe to be true in this case.
I know that the many women I've known personally have experienced ups and downs in libido but there's always a reason. It isn't a natural state for them to have a prolonged down time. And typically, they continued self stimulation even if they didn't have sex with their partners.
So, just because a woman isn't interested in sex with a partner, doesn't mean that she isn't interested in sex at all. That was my point.
But I've already acknowledged, many times, that many people don't like sex for many reasons. I shouldn't have to say that every time I respond to you on this thread. It's acknowledged. You, on the other hand, continue to say that you hear that sex-loving women do exist but that you don't believe it. Gee, thanks.
As I said before though....makes no difference to me if you believe it or not.
Edited 12/31/2005 9:38 pm ET by katmandoo2001
"But men have always feared that women were truly the more sexual gender. That's why they've always attempted to control female sexuality thoughout history."
Yeah, men are so terrified of sexually aggressive women that trillions are spent fantasizing about them.
"And since he doesn't know MOST women, he shouldn't be generalizing, period."
Now come on. I don't know MOST dogs, but I generalize that dogs have 4 legs and tails. Am I overstepping? Does it really matter if your dog has only 3 legs?
I don't see Rice saying there are no highly sexual women. Just that it is atypical and their numbers are low.
Poor analogy. We're not discussing body parts here, we're discussing libido, sexual response and behavior, which can vary widely from person to person.
And yes, Rice HAS said that he doesn't believe that there are truly women who have strong drives. This is hardly the first thread on this subject.
But he is welcomed to believe whatever he chooses. Doesn't mean that it is true, however. It's just his personal perception.
Edited 1/2/2006 12:30 am ET by katmandoo2001
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