Men and women think differently.
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| Wed, 12-14-2005 - 7:19am |
There's an ad on TV that I've seen several times recently. It's for a national jewelry store chain. It starts with a woman sitting alone in her home on Christmas Eve. She was phoned by her man to inform her that a major snow storm might prevent him from getting home tonight. She hears the sound of a vehicle, and it turns out to be a snowplow that stops in front of her house. She looks out the window, and the man descends from the plow, having obviously moved heaven and earth to get home to her. They embrace, she looks at him with loving eyes, he gives her a gift of jewelry, and they hug again.
I'll bet most women think: "How romantic." As a guy, I was thinking: "He's going to get laid tonight!" Am I right, or do some of you think differently from what I expect for your gender?

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It's funny, but my first thought is that he loves her so much that he couldn't bear being separated from her, no matter, no way. Sex didn't even cross my mind. Ya know why? Because in my mind if he went through all of that to get to her, then they have a GREAT relationship. And in any great relationship, the sex is NORMALLY superb and plentiful. What also comes to my mind is if he went through all of that expense to get to her, it's because it is HER that he couldn't wait to see. That HER is ALL of HER, not just the sexual HER. If DH did that, it would just prove how much he loves me -- all of me. The only person who would think -- "I was such a good boy...I betcha I'm gonna get some" is probably not getting any. ;-) In healthy relationships, there's plenty of sex, so it's not an obsession. ;-) In fact, it's not the most important thing.
Women love sex, just as much as men do....and anyone who thinks differently is wrong. Men and women BOTH need to feel loved, and sex is one way to express that love....but it certainly isn't the only way. I think that it's ridiculous to say that men need sex to feel loved--that suggests that it's their only necessity. Both men and women need both-- to feel loved and to have sex. I have sex for two reasons; to get as close to DH as intimately as any human can to another human and sometimes just because I need physical release. ;-) Do I feel loved when we have sex? Yes, but I also feel loved when he fixes me a cup of tea just the way I like, without asking, or if he just hugs me -- just because. Women NEED sex and men NEED love. We're no different than men--we both need both.
Edited 12/19/2005 12:10 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
I understand that Gigi but we can only be conditioned and have tunnel vision if we let it happen.
Tish, I have no doubt that Rice knows he's being offensive and why I think he should be called on it when he is.
99% of us could recall and dwell on some negative experience with the opposite sex, so while his feelings may be understandable, to a degree, his generalization of all women is an ongoing choice.
So, like you, I believe that even old, bitter dogs can learn new tricks and attitudes....if they choose to. But I think a lot of what he says is simply for shock value.
Edited 12/19/2005 2:37 pm ET by katmandoo2001
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