Men and women think differently.

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Men and women think differently.
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 7:19am

There's an ad on TV that I've seen several times recently. It's for a national jewelry store chain. It starts with a woman sitting alone in her home on Christmas Eve. She was phoned by her man to inform her that a major snow storm might prevent him from getting home tonight. She hears the sound of a vehicle, and it turns out to be a snowplow that stops in front of her house. She looks out the window, and the man descends from the plow, having obviously moved heaven and earth to get home to her. They embrace, she looks at him with loving eyes, he gives her a gift of jewelry, and they hug again.

I'll bet most women think: "How romantic." As a guy, I was thinking: "He's going to get laid tonight!" Am I right, or do some of you think differently from what I expect for your gender?

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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 2:37pm
Of course any woman, and any person, is worth more than a car. What I meant, and what you chose to ignore, was the implication that no woman is worth a Rolls Royce in order to get her to have sex. It was meant to be tongue-in-cheek and as a joke, as was, I assumed, Tish's orginal response.
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 2:53pm
I have a homework assignment for you: In a dictionary, look up the words 'some', 'many', ‘most’, and 'all'. I think that you will find that they all have different definitions. My generalizations about women and sex are based upon personal experiences and observations, as well as readings of others experiences and observations, and have always been prefaced by the qualifiers of 'some' or 'many' and, occasionally, by 'most', but never, ever, by 'all'. I know that there are women who enjoy sex and actually want to have sex sometimes; I read your posts here and elsewhere on iVillage. It's just that I know that doesn't describe 'all' women, and I'm very skeptical that it even describes 'most' women. I understand that skepticism is opinion and not necessarily fact, but it is what I believe.
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 2:57pm
As I said, Rice, you have made a choice to believe this way....to generalize women in the most negative way. And you SAY that you realize that other women feel differently about sex, but in the same breath, you negate it by saying that you don't really believe it. Can't have it both ways.


Edited 12/19/2005 3:14 pm ET by katmandoo2001
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 2:59pm

I guess the difference is that I know from experience when Tish is joking and when she isn't. She is generally balanced in her opinions.

On the other hand, I never hear you say anything objective about women. So, hence my offense.

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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 3:25pm
I don't believe that I've ever said anything intentionally negative or derogatory about women in general. I have great affection and respect for women and do what I can to support equal rights and opportunities for women and an end of sexism and misogyny. (Jeez, makes me sound like I'm running for office, doesn't it?) Anyway, I have always viewed women as equals to men, except, possibly, when it comes to sex, and I don't mean it in a bad way. Men do a lot of things to mess up their lives, and the lives of those close to them, by thinking with their 'little heads' instead of their brain, something that I don't see women as guilty of doing. Actually, this is probably one area where women have it over men. I just am skeptical of references to female sexuality and libido, even though I know that they do exist in some women. Most of that skepticism is related to a difficulty in understanding something with which I have no personal experience, but a lot of it is based upon more than a half-century of observations of women's behavior. We may not be totally determined by our personal experiences, but they definitely form a strong framework within which we interpret the other information we are presented with in life.
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 3:41pm

Rice, maybe you should keep an open mind about something. It may very well be your experience and the experiences of those you know as well as those you read on the boards that a good amount of women hold out on sex within a relationship or just don't seem interested in sex, but that's just what you see on the surface.

It's most probable that it's not just because they don't like or seem interested in sex. It's much more likely to be something deeper, like harboring resentments or other relationship issues and/or they aren't personally getting anything physically out of it whenever they do have sex. Most likely, these women have very good-healthy libidos and are masturbating regularly. They are very sexual and love sex, they just, for whatever reason, stop wanting to have it with their SO. So, it's wrong to assume that most women are asexual or dislike sex just because they stopped having it with their SO.

In other words Rice, women are not frigidby their very nature(I'm sure there are exceptions though, just like there are some men who are frigid) and only those few of us here are the exceptions; if anything, I think it's the converse. I think that women are more sexual then men, even. After all...we can have sex without even being very aroused(which puts us in the mood usually), and we're multi-orgasmic.

Nope....I hate to say it, but if a woman stops having sex, or loses interest, I'd bet money on it that she's still masturbating, still has a libido, and is very interested in sex....just not with whomever she's with. I laugh because after a party DH will come home with stories from the guys about how little sex they get from their wives and I have all the stories from the wives explaining why. ;-)




Edited 12/20/2005 7:16 am ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 3:47pm

"Men do a lot of things to mess up their lives, and the lives of those close to them, by thinking with their 'little heads' instead of their brain, something that I don't see women as guilty of doing. Actually, this is probably one area where women have it over men."

Rice, just because women have more self-control, and think more clearly than men(and they say we're the weaker sex), doesn't compute to men having more of a libido. I assure you that I and all of my friends have had a very strong libido from a very young age(I laugh when I hear how much young men masturbate and boast about it as though they invented it). Women masturbate at just as young an age(if not younger--I was eight) and they are just as flooded with hormones during the teen years as men are. We just are taught by society not to express it, or else we're s l u t s. tee hee I know this is hard for you to grasp, but it's the truth, I swear it. tee hee The only thing that women have over men is control of their libido(well some do). It seems that men let their libido rule them, whereas women think more logically when it comes(no pun intended) to sex. *sigh*

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 4:33pm
Kat, Rice is a good person, he means no harm. He's just frustrated. ;-)
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 6:50pm

Well, I can tell you that I've observed some pretty disgusting and piggish sexual behavior from men in my 40-some odd years but I don't use that as a reason to negate all the decent and loving behavior I've seen and experienced either. I don't for a minute believe that all men behave that way.

And I think I've said this to you before but if every woman you've ever known, eventually turns off sexually, then you need to look at what YOU may be doing to contribute to that, as well. Women don't turn off for no reason.

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Tue, 12-20-2005 - 7:32am
I want to clarify my original post. In no way did I mean or imply that the man in the commercial gave her the jewelry just to get laid. He went through too much to get home to her to have it be just for sex. What I was referring to is my thoughts upon viewing the ad.

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