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| Fri, 05-05-2006 - 1:34am |
... confusion.
Not sure how to do this and how to say this. help
Questions are my way of putting things into words since it is struggle to find the right words to say.
When you think about sex or think about anything related to sex what are you thinking and is it any one of these?
Men can you name reasons why you think about sex
Are any of these that reason? and if so what do they mean to you?
1. to feel needed.
2. Physiological release
3. he feels insecure as he grows older
4. feels close to the woman he is with
5. Physical interaction
6. Sight -turns you on
7 release from stress
8. pleasant sense of satisfaction in having been with her and it takes you away from your daily life challenges
9. one dimension and -men -can you explain this. I see it as you being relating physically
I am struggling with how to phrase the sentence below
and What would make you a sexually fulfilled partner or spouse and why
JS

Why we think about sex? We think about sex due to biological drives to reproduce; for men, physical appearance of a woman initiates attention before anything else, ...then we conciously decide whether or not to approach her. Desire for sex is for a physiological release; the adjoining emotion of desired affection is seperate for men, but sex usually seems best when both are combined. Yet we still enjoy sex with someone we will never embrace for more than a few moments, or perhaps ever see again. The desire to feel needed isn't experienced by all, usually more by those who are insecure. Men don't have sex 'to feel close' to the woman; the intimacy and affection drive seems higher in women, and the sexual drive higher in men. So....in pursuit of sex, we get the minimal amount of affection we need. The desire for sex usually appears quicker than the desire for affection; if we manage to get the first, the second usually is satisfied without our knowing it. Sight turns us on, or there wouldn't be anyone to do the pursuing. women, for the most part, very rarely do any active pursuing of men. And then, they use non verbal body language that men don't understand or even pick up on, so it doesn't work. Sexually fulfilled, well the amount of sexual activity required varies by individual. For some, multiple times a day, for others perhaps once a year. Your mileage may vary.