to the men -not sure what to title

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Fri, 05-05-2006 - 1:04am

Not sure how to word this. Help...

Men -it is said that women dont know how many times a day you think about sex. and that a woman can turn a mans head regardless. Because you are relate in the physical. and how do you handle it?

do you think about sex or anything sexual related and how may times? twice day , 20 times or 30 times..

if any.. What is the sexual thought if it is a sexual thought?

Is beauty sexual to you?

What is the beauty of a woman that turns your head?

Men are physical beings.

Men relate physically so ..... how do you handle it if you dont receive it?

Judith

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Fri, 05-05-2006 - 6:27am
Wow, three of the same, or similar questions. O.K.. We think about sex often, but not necessarily for a long time. A pretty woman walks by, we think about her for a moment or two, and go back to work. Or.....we're stuck in traffic, and daydream of sex for twenty minutes after seeing a beauty on a billboard. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder; few are attractive to everyone; if you're wondering what to make yourself into, go for whatever is attractive to the type of man you want to be with. women have the opportunity to change physically, dress differently to alter your outward appearance while still staying the same personality wise. However, if your personality doesn't match, it will be much harder to appear physically what he wants and keep his attention after you get it. We do best to pursue those who find us attractive, not just those that we find attractive. Men relate physically but verbally too. We just aren't all as articulate as you would like, and men don't talk anywhere near as often as women do. My female friends are still confused why their men are so often 'silent'. Men don't feel a need to talk. We bond by common activities. Women bond by conversation. don't let the difference disturb you. Does this help?
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Fri, 05-05-2006 - 8:29am
judith, if you are familiar with the word association it helps with answering your questions... A man see an attractive woman, it triggers a sexual thought. I guess men are wired that way, either from masturbating while looking at a picture of a woman, or thinking of a woman.. Men are visual and at the sight of something either sexual or what he deems attractive, it triggers a sexual thought... Men think of sex several times a day, depending on the man his immediate environment, or the stimuli he is exposed to....It has no bearing on how he feels about his significant other.
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Fri, 05-05-2006 - 9:03am

thank you

confused -I understood you.

So what do you find attractive or what is the attraction and then define what is mean't by sexual thought? -what is the difference between "something either sexual or attractive?

So what do you do about or how do you handle the the sexual thought? I need to hear you say it..

Judith

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Fri, 05-05-2006 - 9:10am

... help

Thank you

What do you mean by relate verbally?

What do you find attractive or if you dont want to answer this way again -define attractive?

Judith

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Fri, 05-05-2006 - 9:13am
For some men, if they see attractive legs, it might trigger a sexual thought..or a nice butt, or breast, no matter the size, that he feels is attractive....even some womens lips might start him to think about sex...Thinking about sex, he might picture himself ,in his mind, as having intercourse, in what ever position he may want, of he might think about getting or giving oral sex.
Attractive to one man might be different to another man..Some men might like a big butt, some men might like a well formed athletic female butt..Some men might like big breasts, while others may like medium to small breasts.. There is the old saying, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder"..That is true..
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Fri, 05-05-2006 - 9:19am


Men -it is said that women dont know how many times a day you think about sex. and that a woman can turn a mans head regardless. Because you are relate in the physical. and how do you handle it?>>>
Handle it with maturity...I don't stare down a attractive woman or anything like that, but I do wonder to myself how she would look naked and sometimes how she would be in between the sheets.

do you think about sex or anything sexual related and how may times? twice day , 20 times or 30 times..>>>
It depends. If I'm on this board,and thinking about my wife and some of the ways I would like to please her...the setting, leading up to...during our time together, I can think of sex all day. It's just not the sex, it's also the sum of all parts leading up to sex

if any.. What is the sexual thought if it is a sexual thought?>>>>
It's how I would like it to play out...I want to be a pleasure provider. That my entail washing dishes, helping with dinner, and then finally, giving oral.
Is beauty sexual to you?>>>>>
Yes and no. Sexy to me is inner. There are plenty of physically attractive women who are not sexy. To me, sexy is when you have that certain something, and you don't need to go out of your way to show it...it's a natural thing.
What is the beauty of a woman that turns your head?>>>>
A nice smile. I always get pulled in with a smile...and then a quick look into the eyes.
Men are physical beings.>>>> Yes we are...but truthfully, if you don't have a little to offer than just the physical, then you'll only be thinking about sex...hahahaha:)

Men relate physically so ..... how do you handle it if you dont receive it?>>>>>
Sometimes I wait...sometimes I help myself stay in shape...if you know what I mean. I'm married with children, so there are times I have to wait...and some when I take a cold shower.

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Fri, 05-05-2006 - 10:53pm

This helped tremendously. thank you. All of it.

Has she ever said verbally to you no not now? and how did you handle it?

Judith

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Fri, 05-05-2006 - 11:19pm

Adding to the other one.. help.

I dont know how to seeking a helpful response to this but.. I know it may sound like I am repeating but I am not. Dont know how to say this -So am i receiving this correctly that you say that a guy can get turn on really easy or not or is there effort on his part-If i am receiving this right-that you are saying that he has the control to turn him self on and off by taking a cold shower. what if you are in a place where you can't take a cold shower then what?

Judith

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Fri, 05-05-2006 - 11:30pm

Know that your answers help as well

Judith

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Sat, 05-06-2006 - 1:01pm

Yes, men are visual and get turned on by beauty. But they also are affected by the woman's character. If they think that the woman is mean, angry, controlling, a very bad person, they do not like her. It doesn't matter how beautiful she is physically, many men will have nothing to do with her. There are always men that only want something physical, but there are also women that are that way.

If a man sees a beautiful woman that he is attracted to, he can control himself. He will start thinking about something else instead of her looks.

A woman can be beautiful, but a man will not be aroused by her. I see many beautiful women, but am not attracted to them. And some of what arouses me is not physical. For instance, I find certain speech accents arousing, and other accents I find repulsive. I find certain behaviors arousing. When a pretty woman looks me in the eye, it can be arousing, or it can turn me off and make me dislike her.

If I have a sexual thought about her, it is not always a clear thought. I do not think, "I would really like to touch her breast". I often just feel aroused without any clear thought about it. Of course, sometimes I do have thoughts about touching her, or what she would act like if I aroused her.

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