Men Visualise This

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Registered: 11-05-2007
Men Visualise This
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Mon, 11-05-2007 - 5:17pm

You're in your late twenties/early thirties and have started dating a woman and

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: bess_t
Mon, 11-05-2007 - 5:24pm
Welcome to the board bess_t. Did this happen to you recently?






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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: bess_t
Mon, 11-05-2007 - 8:26pm
If we have gotten to the stage of having sex, and she doesn't, at that point, realize that it isn't about

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Registered: 02-02-2004
In reply to: bess_t
Mon, 11-05-2007 - 9:56pm

Being the way I am, I would hug her and let her get it all out, and just be quiet and let her talk about it as she wants. I'm not boasting- the way I am, I would never have gotten that far anyway.


If this has happened to you, I hope he is sensitive to you.

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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: bess_t
Tue, 11-06-2007 - 10:01am

IF I were a man, I would let her calm down, then I'd explain to her that it wouldn't matter if she had been with 50 other people before me, it's different with everyone, and no matter how much experience she has had, or hasn't had, each new partner is a new learning experience.

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Registered: 11-05-2007
In reply to: bess_t
Tue, 11-06-2007 - 1:36pm

Thanks all for your input.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: bess_t
Tue, 11-06-2007 - 1:51pm

"Being a serial lurker didn't realise just how nerve racking posting your experiences on here could be. Got a whole new respect for those that do. So thanks again."

Now that you're out of lurkdom, hopefully you'll find it gets easier and easier to post. As you can tell, the members here are more than happy to share their opinions and advice with you.

Hopefully if this was a situation that happened to you IRL, your guy had an understanding reaction.





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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: bess_t
Tue, 11-06-2007 - 9:03pm

Hi Bess, I received your email and I replied back

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Registered: 07-15-2007
In reply to: bess_t
Thu, 11-08-2007 - 3:21pm

Considering a similar situation happened to me when I was in college I can say this...I was more concerned with her feelings and helping her not wig.


Beyond that, I should've been smart enough to know that this particular girl was a fruit loop. I wasn't. And because of that I got huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuurt. (yes with like 12 u's)


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Registered: 10-03-2006
In reply to: bess_t
Thu, 11-08-2007 - 6:11pm

My knee jerk reaction would be to consider she had been abused or has other mental issues that need to be addressed.

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Registered: 09-13-2007
In reply to: bess_t
Thu, 11-08-2007 - 7:46pm
Is it possibe that something else. . . When I started dating my now DW, she held back more than usual when things progressed in the intimacy dept. A million things went threw my head as to why, until finally she told me her situation. . . It turns out she contracted Herpes from a former lover. . . I can't imagine how hard that was for her to go through. . . She handed me an informational pamphlet about Herpes to "break the news" to me. . . 13+ years later and we're still going strong. . . And to my knowledge, I have not contracted the dreaded "H-rs" as we call it. . . Anyway, I have no idea if this could be your situation but I just thought I'd share. .

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